When I married my husband a little over 3 years ago, he assurred me that everything was taken care of with the custody issues over his children. I found out a few weeks after we got married that he lied. We now have our own child, a massively dirty custody battle, and he is down to only his daughter. She is 9 and in therapy. She was abused and neglected with her mother, but since we are her custodial parents, I get to pay for it. My stress is so severe I ended up having a mini-stroke. She seems like she has ODD but is passive-agressive. It isn't her fault, but the more therapy she gets the worse she behaves. husband doesn't care to deal with the drama. Discipline does not even remotely phase this girl. Her team of therapists stress consistency and we do our best, but she uses her time-outs to get out of school work (homeschooled), chores, anything she does not care to do. She lies all the time for absolutely no reason, just started taking things without permission, and ignoring people or acting like she is mentally incompetant. She is actually very bright, had her tested... She ruins all of her opportunities by playing pity party, telling everyone about her rough life and how stupid she is (when she isn't at all, she just chooses to be). She refuses to retain anything... I am frustrated if you couldn't tell! I love her so much and I know she is better than this. I do not know what to do, and the stress is directly impacting my health now. Any suggestions?