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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 66137" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Pamela, that sounds very familiar. Most of us moms are the focal point, just because we're the moms.</p><p>The fact that he laid down in bed with-you afterward is an indication that he still feels close enough to you to be there. I know that makes it more confusing. During a calm time like that, assuming he's awake the next time (gulp) there is an opportunity to talk to him about his behavior. It will be fresh enough in his mind that he won't deny it and that he'll still be in that remorseful, worn-out mode. You can then tell him, in a very calm, nice voice, that he was very loud and that he scared the dogs and he made you cry. Tell him that he loses privileges for doing that, and that you love him and want to work together with him.</p><p>I noticed that you said you'd tried many medications over the yrs. You know that medications don't work alone. They all require behavior modification. What sort of strategies has your therapist suggested? Which ones work the best?</p><p>In our house, we've totally stripped our difficult child's room down to the mattress. When he rages, I just stay out of the way. I used to get into it with-him and now I know better. </p><p>Luckily, we have bigger dogs--collies--so even if difficult child hits them, they'll have a bruise but not be mortally wounded.</p><p>Good luck.</p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 66137, member: 3419"] Pamela, that sounds very familiar. Most of us moms are the focal point, just because we're the moms. The fact that he laid down in bed with-you afterward is an indication that he still feels close enough to you to be there. I know that makes it more confusing. During a calm time like that, assuming he's awake the next time (gulp) there is an opportunity to talk to him about his behavior. It will be fresh enough in his mind that he won't deny it and that he'll still be in that remorseful, worn-out mode. You can then tell him, in a very calm, nice voice, that he was very loud and that he scared the dogs and he made you cry. Tell him that he loses privileges for doing that, and that you love him and want to work together with him. I noticed that you said you'd tried many medications over the yrs. You know that medications don't work alone. They all require behavior modification. What sort of strategies has your therapist suggested? Which ones work the best? In our house, we've totally stripped our difficult child's room down to the mattress. When he rages, I just stay out of the way. I used to get into it with-him and now I know better. Luckily, we have bigger dogs--collies--so even if difficult child hits them, they'll have a bruise but not be mortally wounded. Good luck. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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