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Please share your stories about how you were able to tell your difficult children "NO"
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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 614565" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Given that a lack of gratitude is almost universal for our difficult children...could it be that they are struggling in their own way for us to let them fall and learn to pick themselves up without us to depend on? I would go for the easy mark too, if I were living hand to mouth as so many of our difficult children do.</p><p></p><p>*****</p><p></p><p>Oh, Nomad! Ha! This whole food thing must be something universal to our difficult children, too. Never have I had anything like this with difficult child daughter ~ but oh boy, difficult child son!!! I just had to laugh at the Ramen Noodle Soup thing because I saw myself looking exactly like you must have, Nomad!</p><p></p><p>Our Ramen Noodles were frozen broccoli. I just mentioned that stupid broccoli in an earlier post on this thread. Good for you, that you aren't giving her any more soup.</p><p></p><p>It's so darn hard to parent a difficult child. I sent banana bread to my granddaughter a few weeks back, and we had so much fun around that whole issue. If you reread Up All Night's post on this thread, you will see that she was fortunate to realize early on that it was not that she needed to parent differently, or that she had parented inappropriately, but that this child was different from the beginning. Think how much grief all of us could have avoided, had we been taught (and been able to believe) this one simple truth back when all this began?</p><p></p><p>***************</p><p></p><p>I haven't had that (cutting) with either of my kids. I have had reports of suicide attempts with difficult child daughter, but I only hear about those in passing, and long after the attempt has been survived. ("What is that, a scar on your wrist?" "Oh, Mom, blah, blah, blah....) What I have had though is difficult child daughter's relationships with more and more abusive men, and her fascination with that whole subculture of violence thriving beneath everyday life in the city. She has gone looking for, and found, that kind of life, and those kinds of people, since she was 14. </p><p></p><p>Could these beatings be difficult child's "cutting"?</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 614565, member: 1721"] Given that a lack of gratitude is almost universal for our difficult children...could it be that they are struggling in their own way for us to let them fall and learn to pick themselves up without us to depend on? I would go for the easy mark too, if I were living hand to mouth as so many of our difficult children do. ***** Oh, Nomad! Ha! This whole food thing must be something universal to our difficult children, too. Never have I had anything like this with difficult child daughter ~ but oh boy, difficult child son!!! I just had to laugh at the Ramen Noodle Soup thing because I saw myself looking exactly like you must have, Nomad! Our Ramen Noodles were frozen broccoli. I just mentioned that stupid broccoli in an earlier post on this thread. Good for you, that you aren't giving her any more soup. It's so darn hard to parent a difficult child. I sent banana bread to my granddaughter a few weeks back, and we had so much fun around that whole issue. If you reread Up All Night's post on this thread, you will see that she was fortunate to realize early on that it was not that she needed to parent differently, or that she had parented inappropriately, but that this child was different from the beginning. Think how much grief all of us could have avoided, had we been taught (and been able to believe) this one simple truth back when all this began? *************** I haven't had that (cutting) with either of my kids. I have had reports of suicide attempts with difficult child daughter, but I only hear about those in passing, and long after the attempt has been survived. ("What is that, a scar on your wrist?" "Oh, Mom, blah, blah, blah....) What I have had though is difficult child daughter's relationships with more and more abusive men, and her fascination with that whole subculture of violence thriving beneath everyday life in the city. She has gone looking for, and found, that kind of life, and those kinds of people, since she was 14. Could these beatings be difficult child's "cutting"? Cedar [/QUOTE]
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