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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 67120" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My advice was only if you preferred more peace in the house until the child is stable...lol. Didn't mean a love-in for Ross Greene. I used him when my kid was a toddler, and he's fourteen now and VERY compliant. Although he started out a pig, the kid has a very neat room now, and I don't even have to ride him about it.</p><p>I think it really matters about your priorities. If I were sick, I'd feel I was better off being well in order to take care of my child and that the stress of forcing a raging kid to clean his room AT THAT TIME was not worth my physical or mental health. I'm also not convinced (nor does anyone really know) that kids are defiant because they are just "bad" kids. MOST kids will take over if they can, but the difference between easy child kids and difficult child kids (I've had both and I'm a mom of five with all of them over ten) is that easy child kids are easier to control. They may put up mild resistance, but they certainly don't rage. It's in my opinion a matter of temperament. My son was a horrible toddler. He is also on the autism spectrum and has a lower tolerance for things than my daughter, who can try rebellion but complies REAL fast when we threaten to ground her. She doesn't want to miss her friends and her electronics. SHE CARES. It's harder when a child plain out doesn't care or is so out of control that he cares, but his behavior becomes even more resistant when he's told what to do. And sometimes, for all the yelling, nothing is accomplished.</p><p>I think the poster (sorry...forgot your name...lol) is a very good parent and it sounds like she got her child to at least stay in her room. Hon, I don't know what's wrong with you, but I hope you don't make yourself sick over this. It sounds like you want to get her to clean that room and are having success--so good for you, but don't let her get to you. Also, I don't think it's unreasonable to empty her room except for her bed and dresser. WHen my son was little he used to throw everything around. We took everything out of his room except his bed and a dresser with a few items of clothes. If he wanted his toys he got one at a time. This is partly how he learned to clean up without our even asking him. He didn't like having to ask for his belogings which were locked away from him. I highly recommend the empty room...lol. And to all of you who aren't Ross Greene fans, I have to say, I NEVER meant to use Ross forever. We used him until we didn't need him any more and we came up with some ideas on our own (like the empty room) and right now Lucas is no longer a behavior problem. He even cleans downstairs, does the garbage, and mows the lawn because that's how he 'earns' his allowance. peace :wink:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 67120, member: 1550"] My advice was only if you preferred more peace in the house until the child is stable...lol. Didn't mean a love-in for Ross Greene. I used him when my kid was a toddler, and he's fourteen now and VERY compliant. Although he started out a pig, the kid has a very neat room now, and I don't even have to ride him about it. I think it really matters about your priorities. If I were sick, I'd feel I was better off being well in order to take care of my child and that the stress of forcing a raging kid to clean his room AT THAT TIME was not worth my physical or mental health. I'm also not convinced (nor does anyone really know) that kids are defiant because they are just "bad" kids. MOST kids will take over if they can, but the difference between easy child kids and difficult child kids (I've had both and I'm a mom of five with all of them over ten) is that easy child kids are easier to control. They may put up mild resistance, but they certainly don't rage. It's in my opinion a matter of temperament. My son was a horrible toddler. He is also on the autism spectrum and has a lower tolerance for things than my daughter, who can try rebellion but complies REAL fast when we threaten to ground her. She doesn't want to miss her friends and her electronics. SHE CARES. It's harder when a child plain out doesn't care or is so out of control that he cares, but his behavior becomes even more resistant when he's told what to do. And sometimes, for all the yelling, nothing is accomplished. I think the poster (sorry...forgot your name...lol) is a very good parent and it sounds like she got her child to at least stay in her room. Hon, I don't know what's wrong with you, but I hope you don't make yourself sick over this. It sounds like you want to get her to clean that room and are having success--so good for you, but don't let her get to you. Also, I don't think it's unreasonable to empty her room except for her bed and dresser. WHen my son was little he used to throw everything around. We took everything out of his room except his bed and a dresser with a few items of clothes. If he wanted his toys he got one at a time. This is partly how he learned to clean up without our even asking him. He didn't like having to ask for his belogings which were locked away from him. I highly recommend the empty room...lol. And to all of you who aren't Ross Greene fans, I have to say, I NEVER meant to use Ross forever. We used him until we didn't need him any more and we came up with some ideas on our own (like the empty room) and right now Lucas is no longer a behavior problem. He even cleans downstairs, does the garbage, and mows the lawn because that's how he 'earns' his allowance. peace [img]:wink:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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