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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 557827" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>It's only a stalemate in difficult child's mind.</p><p>He doesn't process the part that says "if he's not stable".</p><p></p><p>So, he hears "you can't come home. period. under any and all conditions"...</p><p>And THAT doesn't "help" him move forward.</p><p>(Note: YOU didn't do or say thing wrong, it's his thinking)</p><p></p><p>Sometimes - I have to do this for husband with difficult child - it helps to rephrase the statement from negative to postive. From "you can't ... until" to "when you ... you can ....". Unless there are no circumstances at all, ever, under which you would let him "come home", it might help to paint the "how to come home" picture.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 557827, member: 11791"] It's only a stalemate in difficult child's mind. He doesn't process the part that says "if he's not stable". So, he hears "you can't come home. period. under any and all conditions"... And THAT doesn't "help" him move forward. (Note: YOU didn't do or say thing wrong, it's his thinking) Sometimes - I have to do this for husband with difficult child - it helps to rephrase the statement from negative to postive. From "you can't ... until" to "when you ... you can ....". Unless there are no circumstances at all, ever, under which you would let him "come home", it might help to paint the "how to come home" picture. [/QUOTE]
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