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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 449305"><p>I agree there is a lot of manipulation.... and there may also be some real feelings on his part. Who knows. I also agree that in no way should you sacrifice your mental health, physical health, financial stability or any other major thing. Definitely the number one priority is to take care of yourself and do what is right for you.</p><p></p><p>However I also think as mothers sometimes what is right for US is to continue to let our kids know we love them. I know for me there is no way I could feel like I was turning my back on my son. I couldn't live with that either. No matter what he does I want to feel like I have done my best by him and I will continue to love him no matter what he does. Part of my love for him also means I will not enable him to destroy himself, if he is going to do that it will have to be on his own. Yet if he reaches out to me asking me to talk to him, write to him, be there emotionally for him I will do what I can. </p><p></p><p>There are no right or wrong answers here.... it really is about you finding out what is right for you to do for yourself. If it feels right to you to go visit him in jail, then go visit him. If it feels too stressful then don't. If it feels right to you to write him then do that, if you need more space right now then that is ok too. Ultimately you have to take care of yourself, and he has to take care of himself. </p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 449305"] I agree there is a lot of manipulation.... and there may also be some real feelings on his part. Who knows. I also agree that in no way should you sacrifice your mental health, physical health, financial stability or any other major thing. Definitely the number one priority is to take care of yourself and do what is right for you. However I also think as mothers sometimes what is right for US is to continue to let our kids know we love them. I know for me there is no way I could feel like I was turning my back on my son. I couldn't live with that either. No matter what he does I want to feel like I have done my best by him and I will continue to love him no matter what he does. Part of my love for him also means I will not enable him to destroy himself, if he is going to do that it will have to be on his own. Yet if he reaches out to me asking me to talk to him, write to him, be there emotionally for him I will do what I can. There are no right or wrong answers here.... it really is about you finding out what is right for you to do for yourself. If it feels right to you to go visit him in jail, then go visit him. If it feels too stressful then don't. If it feels right to you to write him then do that, if you need more space right now then that is ok too. Ultimately you have to take care of yourself, and he has to take care of himself. Hugs, TL [/QUOTE]
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