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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 177616" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Star,</p><p> </p><p>He is 17. while in some ways there is not much diff between age 17 and age 18, at age 17 he is still a minor. As such, the adults in his life may need to step in when htey see him taking a major dive. </p><p> </p><p>Why are the foster parents, the THERAPEAUTIC foster parents, not arranging for these assistances and paying for them out of Dude's SSI? I know case manager is a patootey, but someone up that network should bear some responsibility. Is the CM's refusal to do anything the reason the TFP's are not doing anything? Do they know they can "get away with it" meaning neglecting doing what they promised?</p><p> </p><p>What is the diff between this TFP and the group home if the TFP's won't take him to look for a job or drop him off at work or even use HIS $$$ to pay HIS fines and doctor visits and medications? He was going to free mental health, so that was no cost off of them. </p><p> </p><p>I think you may have to step in and work to help Dude figure out a plan. </p><p> </p><p>With his gaps/lacks in education and common sense and cause-and effect thinking, he may be unable to figure out how to get a job if he can't get there, negotiate a written list of whatever chores are expected/agreed upon, set himself up with a new psychiatrist (if he even can being under 18). Or kick some CM hiney and some TFP hiney and get them to do what they agreed upon.</p><p> </p><p>If they have no $$, what happened to the big tv, videogame system, etc that the TFPs gave him? Can he sell them to cover his fines? Were they purchased with Dude's SSI and therefor should be Dude's property?</p><p> </p><p>IS dude capable of navigating through these things if you help him talk to the TFPs and CM, etc???</p><p> </p><p>Is Dude jsut spending his time watching tv and playing video games (being lazy)? Can he ride a bicycle to a job?</p><p> </p><p>Did Dude start with TFP's holding his $$$ only to find they spent it and he didn't have it for fines, so he is reluctant to have them 'hold' his $$ anymore?</p><p> </p><p>I jsut wonder about the TFP's as much of this comes up to being financially responsible - they bought the big tv and the game system and the clothes. They get $$ to house him and his SSI checks. but the internet is cut off? And they take a week at the beach?</p><p> </p><p>I just see mixed signals, and think it may be more than a 17yo who is over his head with the legal system, and isn't the most logical thinker, could fix.</p><p> </p><p>Overall, though, follow your instincts.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 177616, member: 1233"] Star, He is 17. while in some ways there is not much diff between age 17 and age 18, at age 17 he is still a minor. As such, the adults in his life may need to step in when htey see him taking a major dive. Why are the foster parents, the THERAPEAUTIC foster parents, not arranging for these assistances and paying for them out of Dude's SSI? I know case manager is a patootey, but someone up that network should bear some responsibility. Is the CM's refusal to do anything the reason the TFP's are not doing anything? Do they know they can "get away with it" meaning neglecting doing what they promised? What is the diff between this TFP and the group home if the TFP's won't take him to look for a job or drop him off at work or even use HIS $$$ to pay HIS fines and doctor visits and medications? He was going to free mental health, so that was no cost off of them. I think you may have to step in and work to help Dude figure out a plan. With his gaps/lacks in education and common sense and cause-and effect thinking, he may be unable to figure out how to get a job if he can't get there, negotiate a written list of whatever chores are expected/agreed upon, set himself up with a new psychiatrist (if he even can being under 18). Or kick some CM hiney and some TFP hiney and get them to do what they agreed upon. If they have no $$, what happened to the big tv, videogame system, etc that the TFPs gave him? Can he sell them to cover his fines? Were they purchased with Dude's SSI and therefor should be Dude's property? IS dude capable of navigating through these things if you help him talk to the TFPs and CM, etc??? Is Dude jsut spending his time watching tv and playing video games (being lazy)? Can he ride a bicycle to a job? Did Dude start with TFP's holding his $$$ only to find they spent it and he didn't have it for fines, so he is reluctant to have them 'hold' his $$ anymore? I jsut wonder about the TFP's as much of this comes up to being financially responsible - they bought the big tv and the game system and the clothes. They get $$ to house him and his SSI checks. but the internet is cut off? And they take a week at the beach? I just see mixed signals, and think it may be more than a 17yo who is over his head with the legal system, and isn't the most logical thinker, could fix. Overall, though, follow your instincts. Hugs, susie [/QUOTE]
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