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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 426999" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>One of the things I try to do as a parent is to give the kid the benefit of the doubt, find excuses for the behavior, attribute the best possible motives to behavior according to the facts of the situation.</p><p></p><p>My gain - when things go wrong - I am emotionally in control and free . Why should I double the suffering - is it not enough that the kid screws that I also need to get upset and suffer. In any case my ability to deal with the situation and be responsive and creative will be limitted by being upset.</p><p></p><p>Now a days I take things further - think of the kid as somebody special , doing the best they can</p><p></p><p>Giving a person the benefit of the doubt , not being judgemental is for US , our ability to stay calm.</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 426999, member: 10"] One of the things I try to do as a parent is to give the kid the benefit of the doubt, find excuses for the behavior, attribute the best possible motives to behavior according to the facts of the situation. My gain - when things go wrong - I am emotionally in control and free . Why should I double the suffering - is it not enough that the kid screws that I also need to get upset and suffer. In any case my ability to deal with the situation and be responsive and creative will be limitted by being upset. Now a days I take things further - think of the kid as somebody special , doing the best they can Giving a person the benefit of the doubt , not being judgemental is for US , our ability to stay calm. Allan [/QUOTE]
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