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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 693639" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>Rebelson, </p><p></p><p>I was thinking about this thread and the thing I was thinking about is for people like myself and Darkwing it is really easy to say, "Don't check on him, don't help him," but we are not dealing with our children (mine are still very young, the big challenges I face are arguing with siblings and not sharing) </p><p></p><p>I think things like limit setting and detachment become very different things when we are dealing with our children. As parents we are programmed to feel responsible for our children. It is very hard to let go of mind set that we need to protect them and take care of them.</p><p></p><p>I approach addiction from the angle that I am not dealing with my children, but other family members and I think it is an entirely different dynamic. I think it is much easier to cut off a sibling or a parent (especially if they have done you wrong) than it is a child. </p><p></p><p>I am not sure that I could be as steadfast with my child and I think that if I was dealing with addiction in one of my children it would be cause for much more anxiety than I have with my sister. </p><p></p><p>I think as parents, and particularly mothers, there is always that instinct to nurture and protect, even when our kids are adults and even when they act like fools. I think that, alone, makes it so much harder.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 693639, member: 20051"] Rebelson, I was thinking about this thread and the thing I was thinking about is for people like myself and Darkwing it is really easy to say, "Don't check on him, don't help him," but we are not dealing with our children (mine are still very young, the big challenges I face are arguing with siblings and not sharing) I think things like limit setting and detachment become very different things when we are dealing with our children. As parents we are programmed to feel responsible for our children. It is very hard to let go of mind set that we need to protect them and take care of them. I approach addiction from the angle that I am not dealing with my children, but other family members and I think it is an entirely different dynamic. I think it is much easier to cut off a sibling or a parent (especially if they have done you wrong) than it is a child. I am not sure that I could be as steadfast with my child and I think that if I was dealing with addiction in one of my children it would be cause for much more anxiety than I have with my sister. I think as parents, and particularly mothers, there is always that instinct to nurture and protect, even when our kids are adults and even when they act like fools. I think that, alone, makes it so much harder. [/QUOTE]
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