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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 594593" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Yes, Recovering! I was just thinking that, yesterday. I was thinking of adding new things to my conscious life , of making my world bigger to dilute the pain of what has happened to difficult child, and to every one of us who love her. Your imagery of needing a bigger heart, a bigger spirit, one which can enfold all the strangeness, all the pain, all the wonderful, horrifying, unexpected things without listing too far to either side ~ that is a perfect image of how I need to do this, of how I CAN do this, of how to think about all of this without giving in to those spooky, Phantom of the Opera feelings.</p><p></p><p>Truly, choosing love, choosing acceptance, is about giving up control, is about cheering them on while remaining detached, is about letting go of shame ~ just letting it go. It's about creating a sure and steady safe harbor in our hearts where our difficult child sons and daughters can find rest and take comfort, knowing we are keeping watch, knowing we love them. </p><p></p><p>A way to go, for me; a path to follow, something to hope for. An apt description of wisdom, isn't it?</p><p></p><p>Or am I in denial, again. It's impossible for me to tell the difference!</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>************</p><p></p><p>I love that she brought you roses. I love that you thought you were surviving Mother's Day when in fact, your daughter was loving and loving and loving you through it.</p><p></p><p>My daughter called me on Mother's Day, too. :O) </p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 594593, member: 1721"] Yes, Recovering! I was just thinking that, yesterday. I was thinking of adding new things to my conscious life , of making my world bigger to dilute the pain of what has happened to difficult child, and to every one of us who love her. Your imagery of needing a bigger heart, a bigger spirit, one which can enfold all the strangeness, all the pain, all the wonderful, horrifying, unexpected things without listing too far to either side ~ that is a perfect image of how I need to do this, of how I CAN do this, of how to think about all of this without giving in to those spooky, Phantom of the Opera feelings. Truly, choosing love, choosing acceptance, is about giving up control, is about cheering them on while remaining detached, is about letting go of shame ~ just letting it go. It's about creating a sure and steady safe harbor in our hearts where our difficult child sons and daughters can find rest and take comfort, knowing we are keeping watch, knowing we love them. A way to go, for me; a path to follow, something to hope for. An apt description of wisdom, isn't it? Or am I in denial, again. It's impossible for me to tell the difference! :O) ************ I love that she brought you roses. I love that you thought you were surviving Mother's Day when in fact, your daughter was loving and loving and loving you through it. My daughter called me on Mother's Day, too. :O) Barbara [/QUOTE]
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