As a compliment to the post asking if posts do help, I thought we can share some ways this board have helped us: So, posts have helped me ............................... Learn to detach - This does not mean to stop loving or caring. This means to not be drawn in to the emotions of anger, fear, guilt, hopelessness, or whatever difficult child is trying to get you to feel. Consider the cause - Why is this behavior showing? Is there a medical issue that needs to be addressed? Are the current medications causing this? See that I am not alone - I am not the only one with a difficult child. I am not the the only one who knows that my child is more than difficult, he is awesome, special, cool. I am not the only one who knows that a firmer hand will not help because difficult child can not help what is going on and understanding goes further than authoritian for difficult child's. Laugh - Laughter is really the best medicine. Life goes on and we do have to enjoy every good minute we can. See different view points - We all read posts differently. Many times I will get feedback on a sentence that I didn't really expect input on. Someone saw something in that sentence that looked important and that input will get me thinking about the situation in a different light.