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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 521309"><p>The structure thing is a very interesting point. My difficult child THRIVES on structure. Or at least he did. In fact, even as a 2.5 yo toddler - he would have trouble adjusting back into the day care routine after a 3 day weekend or vacation. Even as a HS student, his schedule was always very structured - school, practice, homework, dinner. He worked on Saturday & Sunday mornings 6 to noon (Einstein bagels) and was NEVER late for work despite being exhausted. In fact he kept that job over the summer when he worked landscape (going into his freshman year of college) - basically working 7 days a week.</p><p></p><p>Going into his junior year in HS- he had a brush with experimentation. At that point our life had been very unstructured (for us)-my dad had just died & I was reeling, we moved into our new house which was still under construction, H was adjusting to working from home, and difficult child was acting as our "summer nanny" -driving his younger brothers around, etc. We were flying by the seat of our pants, and it was not a healthy thing for our family. When everything hit the fan with- difficult child- we closed ranks and I made sure I was home when the boys got out of school, dinner was on the table at 6:30 every night and chores were assigned and enforced and we did a lot of hanging out at home. He thrived.</p><p></p><p>As a college student away from home - he had way too much idle time. I think the lack of structure was a huge contributor to his downfall. I have to admit - it was not a good thing for me either when I was his age. I took a year off and then went back to school as a commuter student, close to home and worked 20-30 hours a week. Those were my most successful years as a student. Want something done? Give it to a busy person- Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 521309"] The structure thing is a very interesting point. My difficult child THRIVES on structure. Or at least he did. In fact, even as a 2.5 yo toddler - he would have trouble adjusting back into the day care routine after a 3 day weekend or vacation. Even as a HS student, his schedule was always very structured - school, practice, homework, dinner. He worked on Saturday & Sunday mornings 6 to noon (Einstein bagels) and was NEVER late for work despite being exhausted. In fact he kept that job over the summer when he worked landscape (going into his freshman year of college) - basically working 7 days a week. Going into his junior year in HS- he had a brush with experimentation. At that point our life had been very unstructured (for us)-my dad had just died & I was reeling, we moved into our new house which was still under construction, H was adjusting to working from home, and difficult child was acting as our "summer nanny" -driving his younger brothers around, etc. We were flying by the seat of our pants, and it was not a healthy thing for our family. When everything hit the fan with- difficult child- we closed ranks and I made sure I was home when the boys got out of school, dinner was on the table at 6:30 every night and chores were assigned and enforced and we did a lot of hanging out at home. He thrived. As a college student away from home - he had way too much idle time. I think the lack of structure was a huge contributor to his downfall. I have to admit - it was not a good thing for me either when I was his age. I took a year off and then went back to school as a commuter student, close to home and worked 20-30 hours a week. Those were my most successful years as a student. Want something done? Give it to a busy person- Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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