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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 521320" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>I haven't yet attended AA/NA meetings, so perhaps the terms, "personal exceptionalism" and "terminal uniqueness" are familiar to most of you. It was a revelation to me. If you haven't heard these phrases, google them and you may recognize and identify substance using difficult child behaviors that are ingrained in an addict's delusional way of thinking, and why they seem so pathetic at times. They're drowning in quicksand, but embracing and stalwartly defending the quicksand at the same time. </p><p>I first heard the expression terminal uniqueness from Dr. Drew. If you've ever seen <em>Celebrity Rehab </em>it strikes you how immature the adult (even senior!) participants have remained, even though they may have achieved great success or notoriety in their field. They fight with each other like they're in middle school. They can't maintain a functional, normal lifestyle with so-called boring, predictable routines, because their entire existence, from the time they became dependant or addicted, revolves around the pursuit of their substance of choice, and the construction of a delusion to justify their pursuit. Family and love are crowded out of their lives, although they desperately miss these things. They flail around and play-act at emotional connectedness. I'm thinking of Signorina's post about the kite...sometimes the string gets so long, and the family is on the ground, but the kite is off in the stratosphere somewhere. That is why detachment is so hard, because we see clearly where they're headed and want desperately to intervene, but they are in a cocoon of self-delusion, which they may, at times, acknowledge is going to ruin them, but they're unwilling or unable to do the hard work to stop. Really, it's heartbreaking. Brings to mind Whitney Houston, Judy Garland. Sad, sad, sad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 521320, member: 13882"] I haven't yet attended AA/NA meetings, so perhaps the terms, "personal exceptionalism" and "terminal uniqueness" are familiar to most of you. It was a revelation to me. If you haven't heard these phrases, google them and you may recognize and identify substance using difficult child behaviors that are ingrained in an addict's delusional way of thinking, and why they seem so pathetic at times. They're drowning in quicksand, but embracing and stalwartly defending the quicksand at the same time. I first heard the expression terminal uniqueness from Dr. Drew. If you've ever seen [I]Celebrity Rehab [/I]it strikes you how immature the adult (even senior!) participants have remained, even though they may have achieved great success or notoriety in their field. They fight with each other like they're in middle school. They can't maintain a functional, normal lifestyle with so-called boring, predictable routines, because their entire existence, from the time they became dependant or addicted, revolves around the pursuit of their substance of choice, and the construction of a delusion to justify their pursuit. Family and love are crowded out of their lives, although they desperately miss these things. They flail around and play-act at emotional connectedness. I'm thinking of Signorina's post about the kite...sometimes the string gets so long, and the family is on the ground, but the kite is off in the stratosphere somewhere. That is why detachment is so hard, because we see clearly where they're headed and want desperately to intervene, but they are in a cocoon of self-delusion, which they may, at times, acknowledge is going to ruin them, but they're unwilling or unable to do the hard work to stop. Really, it's heartbreaking. Brings to mind Whitney Houston, Judy Garland. Sad, sad, sad. [/QUOTE]
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