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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 370432" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>difficult child gets released from detention the second week of Aug. and of course, I have to pick him up, get him processed out, and see PO. Then, there will be a meeting at school to get him enrolled and then an IEP meeting at school (at least one) to get him back into a public school system...again. I have a mammo scheduled for mid-August and since I have tissue/some spots they wanted to watch and I haven't had one in 3 years, I don't want to cancel it. We have to move in August. I can't work full time and leave difficult child to his own accord for three weeks, not being in school and no program that I can afford for him to go to on short notice, should I get the job. I tried working from home full time hours when he was released from Department of Juvenile Justice and we all know how well that turned out. I can only imagine what it will be like if I tried it working out of the home and school not even being in session. Ideally, I would tell them I could start full time after school starts and that is risky enough because if difficult child skips school and I get the calls to come and get him right away and he's being arrested for breaking parole, requiring us to go to court unexpectedly, well, there will go another job. I think I better tell them upfront that I have a difficult child in the juvenile system. If DSS doesn't get it, no one will.</p><p></p><p>Another thing I'm torn about- my best hope for a therapist that understands and can actually do something useful for my issues is at the VA. That then could potentially lead to more effective family therapy with difficult child. If I pursue this therapy, it will prevent being able to work full time because their tdocs work normal business hours. If I don't, I feel like I'm just repeating the past situation of sitting here waiting until difficult child messes up again and I lose another job. And if I work full time, this therapy can only last a few months- that might be enough though. I would lose the VA benefits the next time I have to reapply to show why I need them- unless they somehow determine a portion of the current problem to be service related. (Being a peace-time vet, I only qualified for VA benefits right now because of income below the poverty level.) That gets sticky but it could happen. I wasn't in a war that caused PTSD or anything- my PTSD was caused by childhood stuff. However, they accepted me in the military as being 100% mentally and physically fit. Then, I had to get treatment in there. Legally, that does somehow make it service connected. But I am torn on how I feel about that. I don't want to abuse the system. But I believe with all my heart that this is the care I need and difficult child's best hope- he can't get individual care there but can indirectly get some help thru family care for me. But I'm not positive that I would lose VA care altogether- laws about that changed within the last year. They won't take outside insurance but I don't mind paying them a co-pay- I just want access to their doctors and tdocs.</p><p></p><p>I also was treated for substance abuse while in the military- but I hate the thought of having to "develop" that problem again to try to get help thru VA.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 370432, member: 3699"] difficult child gets released from detention the second week of Aug. and of course, I have to pick him up, get him processed out, and see PO. Then, there will be a meeting at school to get him enrolled and then an IEP meeting at school (at least one) to get him back into a public school system...again. I have a mammo scheduled for mid-August and since I have tissue/some spots they wanted to watch and I haven't had one in 3 years, I don't want to cancel it. We have to move in August. I can't work full time and leave difficult child to his own accord for three weeks, not being in school and no program that I can afford for him to go to on short notice, should I get the job. I tried working from home full time hours when he was released from Department of Juvenile Justice and we all know how well that turned out. I can only imagine what it will be like if I tried it working out of the home and school not even being in session. Ideally, I would tell them I could start full time after school starts and that is risky enough because if difficult child skips school and I get the calls to come and get him right away and he's being arrested for breaking parole, requiring us to go to court unexpectedly, well, there will go another job. I think I better tell them upfront that I have a difficult child in the juvenile system. If DSS doesn't get it, no one will. Another thing I'm torn about- my best hope for a therapist that understands and can actually do something useful for my issues is at the VA. That then could potentially lead to more effective family therapy with difficult child. If I pursue this therapy, it will prevent being able to work full time because their tdocs work normal business hours. If I don't, I feel like I'm just repeating the past situation of sitting here waiting until difficult child messes up again and I lose another job. And if I work full time, this therapy can only last a few months- that might be enough though. I would lose the VA benefits the next time I have to reapply to show why I need them- unless they somehow determine a portion of the current problem to be service related. (Being a peace-time vet, I only qualified for VA benefits right now because of income below the poverty level.) That gets sticky but it could happen. I wasn't in a war that caused PTSD or anything- my PTSD was caused by childhood stuff. However, they accepted me in the military as being 100% mentally and physically fit. Then, I had to get treatment in there. Legally, that does somehow make it service connected. But I am torn on how I feel about that. I don't want to abuse the system. But I believe with all my heart that this is the care I need and difficult child's best hope- he can't get individual care there but can indirectly get some help thru family care for me. But I'm not positive that I would lose VA care altogether- laws about that changed within the last year. They won't take outside insurance but I don't mind paying them a co-pay- I just want access to their doctors and tdocs. I also was treated for substance abuse while in the military- but I hate the thought of having to "develop" that problem again to try to get help thru VA. [/QUOTE]
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