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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 245436" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Welcome again. You are not "gate-crashing". We have members all over the world here.</p><p> </p><p>As I read your latest post, my first thought was, "I think this child needs an inpatient stay." The staff at a hospital will be able to further observe her behaviors as well as make her take her medications. If she can take the medications long enough to feel better that may help.</p><p> </p><p>I also think you should ask to be assigned to a different psychiatrist. She may have a "personality clash" with this one. She needs to find someone she is comfortable with. I am also a firm believer that boys like men doctors and girls are more comfortable with women doctors. Maybe the one she is seeing now seems too authorative for her? She needs someone she feels is a friend and understands and does not judge.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child is Gift from God. We refer to our difficult children as a Gift from God. Within this challenging gift, we also acknowledge the special person our children are. We know these kids are struggling to survive and we also know they have unique talents just like every other kid.</p><p> </p><p>We all also get the judgmental feelings from those around us. We understand how the "Just discipline your child correctly and you will not have this problem" statements feel. People without difficult children do not understand that our children just don't "get" it. The form of discipline used on easy child (perfect children, though we all know there is not a perfect child out there) will not work on difficult children. We need to figure out how our child works and go from there.</p><p> </p><p>I feel that your daughter is noticing how she has struggles that other kids do not have. How she feels different and that scares her. Her rages are her screams for help. While you search for the answer, you need to somehow reach her to let her know that you are there to help her. That she must try to work with you because you are a team.</p><p> </p><p>It adds extra pressures/stresses when family members involved in the parenting process do not get along. That is a great opportunity for a child to fall into manipulation. For this part of the issue, I would suggest you look up a book titled, "The Manipulative Child". It helped me a lot. Don't be afraid of the title. It does not have any negative references to any manipulative person. It simply states that manipulation is a way of life that some kids pick up on, not that that kid is bad, just that that kid has decided to use this as a survival skill. The kid doesn't even know that he or she is manipulating. They don't always think ahead or think it through, they just do it. Remember, they are the center of their world and will do anything they need to to meet their goals. This book gave me some skills to help manage and end much of it. Ask her grandparents to read it also.</p><p> </p><p>And for writing a long post to vent - Keep it coming! We also understand how writing out things help and that not many people have a friend or family member to discuss these things with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 245436, member: 5096"] Welcome again. You are not "gate-crashing". We have members all over the world here. As I read your latest post, my first thought was, "I think this child needs an inpatient stay." The staff at a hospital will be able to further observe her behaviors as well as make her take her medications. If she can take the medications long enough to feel better that may help. I also think you should ask to be assigned to a different psychiatrist. She may have a "personality clash" with this one. She needs to find someone she is comfortable with. I am also a firm believer that boys like men doctors and girls are more comfortable with women doctors. Maybe the one she is seeing now seems too authorative for her? She needs someone she feels is a friend and understands and does not judge. difficult child is Gift from God. We refer to our difficult children as a Gift from God. Within this challenging gift, we also acknowledge the special person our children are. We know these kids are struggling to survive and we also know they have unique talents just like every other kid. We all also get the judgmental feelings from those around us. We understand how the "Just discipline your child correctly and you will not have this problem" statements feel. People without difficult children do not understand that our children just don't "get" it. The form of discipline used on easy child (perfect children, though we all know there is not a perfect child out there) will not work on difficult children. We need to figure out how our child works and go from there. I feel that your daughter is noticing how she has struggles that other kids do not have. How she feels different and that scares her. Her rages are her screams for help. While you search for the answer, you need to somehow reach her to let her know that you are there to help her. That she must try to work with you because you are a team. It adds extra pressures/stresses when family members involved in the parenting process do not get along. That is a great opportunity for a child to fall into manipulation. For this part of the issue, I would suggest you look up a book titled, "The Manipulative Child". It helped me a lot. Don't be afraid of the title. It does not have any negative references to any manipulative person. It simply states that manipulation is a way of life that some kids pick up on, not that that kid is bad, just that that kid has decided to use this as a survival skill. The kid doesn't even know that he or she is manipulating. They don't always think ahead or think it through, they just do it. Remember, they are the center of their world and will do anything they need to to meet their goals. This book gave me some skills to help manage and end much of it. Ask her grandparents to read it also. And for writing a long post to vent - Keep it coming! We also understand how writing out things help and that not many people have a friend or family member to discuss these things with. [/QUOTE]
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