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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful97" data-source="post: 677216" data-attributes="member: 19678"><p>Leafy,</p><p>I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are in the right place with other warrior moms.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I know that kind of panic (thinking my purse, etc...) is unprotected. It sounds so familiar you try to talk calmly and the response from d c is blow up. You do not deserve this, you deserve respect. This is unacceptable behavior. </p><p></p><p>When we offer to help or get our d c s help and the response is violent (screaming cuss words and other nasty things at us) being so close to you and screaming in your face. This is awful. It sounds like very similar situation, it is time once again to have no contact.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>WOW, this again is unacceptable. I know it can be kind of a pain, but try to form the habit of logging out of everything all the time, so that you have to put in your id and password everytime. We should not have to do this but I think of it as part of the process of having an adult d c that comes and goes, for lack of a better term.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You are a good mother and do not deserve this kind of treatment or immense hatred. I agree that it is very hard when your hubby is not on the same page as you. My husband, like yours is old fashioned and quiet. I went through d c not coming around when I was home, that did not last long and this eventually lead to me getting a restraining order. Hubby did not like this, I explained that I had to do it for my sanity and that he could still have contact with d c, just not at our home. This is a very hard thing to do. As you know our d c s are very good at triangulation and it seems that Rain is trying to do just that. </p><p></p><p>You are not a b****. Don't lose the hope of having your d c s whole again. Exactly right helping her at this point is not helping her. </p><p></p><p>You have the right to feel peace and safety in your home. It is extremely unacceptable not to feel this in your home. It is important for hubby to know that you do not feel peace and safety in your home and it is very important for you to know that your d c will not be in your home period. </p><p></p><p>You are not poor thing mother of a drug addict, your are strong warrior mom - that is helping herself get her life back and striving for some type of normalcy.</p><p></p><p>I agree your youngest does not need to be around this, he does need protecting.</p><p></p><p>The best way to help our d c s at this point is to let them be in the world and figure out what kind of lifestyle they want to lead. They take and take and take, we try to help and give and give. This is madness and must not be.</p><p></p><p>One thing I have recently come to realize, I don't think we ever accept or get used to the terrible lifestyle (existence) that our d c s choose and the fact that they do not want help or think they do not need help and it is okay to live how they live and treat us like they do, but we simply learn to live with it. Thank God for this site where we can accept, care, support and love other warrior parents and help each other heal and go through the what seems like continuous cycles that go with our journeys concerning our d c s.</p><p></p><p>Leafy, I don't know why but it seems that moms get most or all of the anger and violence our d c s have. Someone once told me that our d c s hurt the ones that love them the most. </p><p></p><p>This really angers me that your d c would do this to you - again it is unacceptable. </p><p></p><p>I am not trying to tell you what to do or did not mean to sound harsh, but this is really troubling, it wrenchs at my heart. You are deserving of peace and safety in your home and respect from your children (adults or not). </p><p></p><p>Keep posting and talking, as you know it really helps - it is great therapy and release.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /></p><p></p><p>BIG BEAR HUGS TO YOU! Thoughts and prayers to you friend. Standing strong with you!</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/group-hug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":group-hug:" title="group hug :group-hug:" data-shortname=":group-hug:" /></p><p>Hopeful</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful97, post: 677216, member: 19678"] Leafy, I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are in the right place with other warrior moms. I know that kind of panic (thinking my purse, etc...) is unprotected. It sounds so familiar you try to talk calmly and the response from d c is blow up. You do not deserve this, you deserve respect. This is unacceptable behavior. When we offer to help or get our d c s help and the response is violent (screaming cuss words and other nasty things at us) being so close to you and screaming in your face. This is awful. It sounds like very similar situation, it is time once again to have no contact. WOW, this again is unacceptable. I know it can be kind of a pain, but try to form the habit of logging out of everything all the time, so that you have to put in your id and password everytime. We should not have to do this but I think of it as part of the process of having an adult d c that comes and goes, for lack of a better term. You are a good mother and do not deserve this kind of treatment or immense hatred. I agree that it is very hard when your hubby is not on the same page as you. My husband, like yours is old fashioned and quiet. I went through d c not coming around when I was home, that did not last long and this eventually lead to me getting a restraining order. Hubby did not like this, I explained that I had to do it for my sanity and that he could still have contact with d c, just not at our home. This is a very hard thing to do. As you know our d c s are very good at triangulation and it seems that Rain is trying to do just that. You are not a b****. Don't lose the hope of having your d c s whole again. Exactly right helping her at this point is not helping her. You have the right to feel peace and safety in your home. It is extremely unacceptable not to feel this in your home. It is important for hubby to know that you do not feel peace and safety in your home and it is very important for you to know that your d c will not be in your home period. You are not poor thing mother of a drug addict, your are strong warrior mom - that is helping herself get her life back and striving for some type of normalcy. I agree your youngest does not need to be around this, he does need protecting. The best way to help our d c s at this point is to let them be in the world and figure out what kind of lifestyle they want to lead. They take and take and take, we try to help and give and give. This is madness and must not be. One thing I have recently come to realize, I don't think we ever accept or get used to the terrible lifestyle (existence) that our d c s choose and the fact that they do not want help or think they do not need help and it is okay to live how they live and treat us like they do, but we simply learn to live with it. Thank God for this site where we can accept, care, support and love other warrior parents and help each other heal and go through the what seems like continuous cycles that go with our journeys concerning our d c s. Leafy, I don't know why but it seems that moms get most or all of the anger and violence our d c s have. Someone once told me that our d c s hurt the ones that love them the most. This really angers me that your d c would do this to you - again it is unacceptable. I am not trying to tell you what to do or did not mean to sound harsh, but this is really troubling, it wrenchs at my heart. You are deserving of peace and safety in your home and respect from your children (adults or not). Keep posting and talking, as you know it really helps - it is great therapy and release. :notalone: BIG BEAR HUGS TO YOU! Thoughts and prayers to you friend. Standing strong with you! :group-hug: Hopeful [/QUOTE]
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