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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 148821" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I believe Allan is correct <span style="color: #000000">when every action of the child is either rewarded or punished. Then, the child will start looking for a reaction that revolves around them. So, rewards and punishments are not doled out so readily.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000000">That said, it is important to recognize special behaviors and accomplishments and discipline (not punish) out of line behaviors. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">The reward and discipline should fit the action as close as possible. The reward does not need to be a material item - it can be a simple as a "I am so proud of you." "That feels great doesn't it?" Keep the reward focused on the deed, not an item.</span></p><p> <span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">The word punishment brings in mind horror images of pain and torture. Let's throw that word out and work on "discipline" which includes natural consequences (you left your homework at home? You get a late grade.) and teaching opportunity (what can we do to prevent that? Maybe put homework in the backpack as soon as it is done?) </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span> </p><p><span style="color: #000000">The hard part is finding a consequence that fits the action.</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 148821, member: 5096"] I believe Allan is correct [COLOR=#000000]when every action of the child is either rewarded or punished. Then, the child will start looking for a reaction that revolves around them. So, rewards and punishments are not doled out so readily.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]That said, it is important to recognize special behaviors and accomplishments and discipline (not punish) out of line behaviors. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000] The reward and discipline should fit the action as close as possible. The reward does not need to be a material item - it can be a simple as a "I am so proud of you." "That feels great doesn't it?" Keep the reward focused on the deed, not an item. The word punishment brings in mind horror images of pain and torture. Let's throw that word out and work on "discipline" which includes natural consequences (you left your homework at home? You get a late grade.) and teaching opportunity (what can we do to prevent that? Maybe put homework in the backpack as soon as it is done?) [/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]The hard part is finding a consequence that fits the action.[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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