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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 56772" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>I can only ditto what was said earlier. To say that we were blindsided by our son's problems is an underatatement. Up to that point, he'd been an outstanding athlete, did fairly well in school, had lots of good friends, and had great relationships with both of us. </p><p></p><p>But when things went south, they went in a hurry, and with no warning.</p><p></p><p>What others have said about taking care of yourself is probably the best advice I can offer as well. Nothing wife or I have done has changed McWeedy one single whit in either direction (good or bad). The only thing that HAS changed is that neither wife or I are completely incapacitated by anxiety, fear, and worry any more. That was the worst thing - getting hit sideways in the head, not seeing it coming, that's pretty much the norm. However, had I been a bit more prepared for it emotionally, it wouldn't have taken such a toll on me and my wife.....</p><p></p><p>And it would have helped me reach the point of increased clarity and acceptance much sooner. Until you reach that point, until you stop being ruled by your emotions and fears, you are the complete and utter hostage of your child's worst whims.</p><p></p><p>If this is something you're worried about, there's nothing you can really do to stop it from happening (I found out how true that is just in the last few days). If it's something you're worried about, though, then start taking measures that will help you weather the storm you seem to think is coming. </p><p></p><p>How much or how little you can "control" or "address" anything that might happen with your child remains to be seen, But, as you said, there's a wealth of knowledge here. Use it. Look at your worst fears, work with the good CD'ers here, and have a "just in case" gameplan for how YOU will handle yourself if those fears are realized.</p><p></p><p>That's the best I have to offer. Hope it helps.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 56772, member: 3579"] I can only ditto what was said earlier. To say that we were blindsided by our son's problems is an underatatement. Up to that point, he'd been an outstanding athlete, did fairly well in school, had lots of good friends, and had great relationships with both of us. But when things went south, they went in a hurry, and with no warning. What others have said about taking care of yourself is probably the best advice I can offer as well. Nothing wife or I have done has changed McWeedy one single whit in either direction (good or bad). The only thing that HAS changed is that neither wife or I are completely incapacitated by anxiety, fear, and worry any more. That was the worst thing - getting hit sideways in the head, not seeing it coming, that's pretty much the norm. However, had I been a bit more prepared for it emotionally, it wouldn't have taken such a toll on me and my wife..... And it would have helped me reach the point of increased clarity and acceptance much sooner. Until you reach that point, until you stop being ruled by your emotions and fears, you are the complete and utter hostage of your child's worst whims. If this is something you're worried about, there's nothing you can really do to stop it from happening (I found out how true that is just in the last few days). If it's something you're worried about, though, then start taking measures that will help you weather the storm you seem to think is coming. How much or how little you can "control" or "address" anything that might happen with your child remains to be seen, But, as you said, there's a wealth of knowledge here. Use it. Look at your worst fears, work with the good CD'ers here, and have a "just in case" gameplan for how YOU will handle yourself if those fears are realized. That's the best I have to offer. Hope it helps. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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