Hi, all. I'm hoping to get some opinions on my older son, who's 4-1/2. He was a tough baby, sometimes crying uncontrollably for hours, but then he was fairly easy until 18 months, when his brother was born. He is definitely the toughest of all the kids in my circle of friends. He is smart, imaginative and affectionate, but when something doesn't go his way, he can become incredibly angry and throw horrible tantrums, which are quite similar to the screaming fits he had as a young infant. I looked at the Chandler article about ODD, and he does lose his temper, refuse to comply with adult instructions and argues with adults (specifically me and husband). He doesn't really show any of the other things on the list. He seems to have improved. As a two-year-old, he'd sometimes have 5-10 nasty tantrums a week. Now he's generally more argumentative when asked to do something he doesn't want to do, but he only has maybe 1-2 tantrums a week. He has never been in trouble at preschool, and seems to get along with other kids, but I know from playdates that he is bossy! I read The Explosive Child a couple of months ago, and compared to many of the kids described in the book, my son is pretty compliant. His explosions aren't as predictable as the situations described in the book, so I haven't really been able to implement Plan B. I need to do a better job tracking the tantrums so I can identify what we need to work together to solve. I want to make our relationship better and ensure he gets along well in school, but I don't want to overreact if he's just on the more challenging side of typical. Thoughts? Opinions?