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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 527648" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We did discuss whether to turn in the doctor who told me to give easy child 2/difficult child 2 her brother's old medications (dose unknown) but I don't want to go there. She's a very manipulative individual who I suspect would not be above heavy CYA capability. I just don't want to tangle with her. I had talked to the practice manager who heard my story then went into CYA mode. So frankly, if this doctor repeatedly does the wrong thing, the practice deserves all they get.</p><p></p><p>Stimulant medications are very strictly controlled here. We've not had problems before though. We get the script written by the pediatrician (for difficult child 3, and earlier for the others) then post the script off to the special compounding pharmacy. The pharmacy have notes on our kids going back to the first script ever sent to them. Dept of Health have the same records - dates of scripts, who wrote them, when they were filled etc. So when I rang Dept of Health to say my kids were out of medications, Dept of Health checked their computer files and said, "Yeah, that makes sense." To their credit, the people at Dept of Health did their best to help us. They could not force a doctor to prescribe, but they could nag a doctor to fix a script that had been badly written. Ironically, the doctor who took so long to fix the script (and must have faxed it overnight) was to get a phone call from Dept of Health this morning.</p><p></p><p>As for the shrink refusing to prescribe the medications that had been working, and instead offering to prescribe something likely to be a lot less satisfactory - Dept of Health were annoyed by this too, but unable to do anything. That shrink is very good at talking her way out of problems, if I complain then she will simply rationalise her decision in ways I cannot answer. I am not a doctor; she is. I know she's wrong. Others are pretty sure she's wrong. But while ever she can rationalise it, can justify it, nobody can do anything. She gets the benefit of the doubt. And we really need to move on and not bog down in ancient history, which is what this story will become. Mind you, it's going in the book I'm writing! Never offend a writer...</p><p></p><p>Our bills - people on Health Care cards (low income earners and people on disability) are supposed to get cheaper health care. However, it is at the discretion of the doctor. My neurologist doesn't bulk bill, but he charges a lot less than easy child 2/difficult child 2's shrink was charging.</p><p></p><p>The neuropsychologist wants to talk to easy child 2/difficult child 2's shrink (the one we're dropping) as well as the neurologist. At least that way we should get some benefit from those appointments. I hope. As long as the shrink doesn't badmouth me as a controlling ratbag parent. Wouldn't put it past her.</p><p></p><p>As for difficult child 3 and computers - his college course is in computers. He continued through his school subjects on computers without pause, while he has taken a lot longer with his other subjects. So he's graduated from high school last year in computers, while he still has several years to go in his other schoolwork. So on the strength of his marks in last year's school computer course (which actually overlapped with college) he is now enrolled in the advanced computer networking course. Three mornings a week. But I don't know how he's going. I'm really anxious to find out. However, because difficult child 3 is a legal adult, it is a lot more difficult for me to find out. The college SpEd is on board for me, but is not as available as the school SpEd. I have to wait for college SpEd to talk to all the college teachers and then get back to me. I can't call the teachers myself.</p><p></p><p>We're in this mess with difficult child 3 because he wants to have it all - his college computing course, and his high school graduation. But he doesn't seem to realise that he actually has to do the work, too. He will not absorb it by simply sitting next to his closed books. His teachers have done everything they can to help, and he just expects more.</p><p></p><p>The difficulty in starting work is something that easy child 2/difficult child 2 and difficult child 1 have both reported also, especially when off their medications. But difficult child 3 is already on a higher dose than is usually prescribed for someone over 18. We tried to cut back but could not manage. </p><p></p><p>I'll know more on Monday, I hope.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 527648, member: 1991"] We did discuss whether to turn in the doctor who told me to give easy child 2/difficult child 2 her brother's old medications (dose unknown) but I don't want to go there. She's a very manipulative individual who I suspect would not be above heavy CYA capability. I just don't want to tangle with her. I had talked to the practice manager who heard my story then went into CYA mode. So frankly, if this doctor repeatedly does the wrong thing, the practice deserves all they get. Stimulant medications are very strictly controlled here. We've not had problems before though. We get the script written by the pediatrician (for difficult child 3, and earlier for the others) then post the script off to the special compounding pharmacy. The pharmacy have notes on our kids going back to the first script ever sent to them. Dept of Health have the same records - dates of scripts, who wrote them, when they were filled etc. So when I rang Dept of Health to say my kids were out of medications, Dept of Health checked their computer files and said, "Yeah, that makes sense." To their credit, the people at Dept of Health did their best to help us. They could not force a doctor to prescribe, but they could nag a doctor to fix a script that had been badly written. Ironically, the doctor who took so long to fix the script (and must have faxed it overnight) was to get a phone call from Dept of Health this morning. As for the shrink refusing to prescribe the medications that had been working, and instead offering to prescribe something likely to be a lot less satisfactory - Dept of Health were annoyed by this too, but unable to do anything. That shrink is very good at talking her way out of problems, if I complain then she will simply rationalise her decision in ways I cannot answer. I am not a doctor; she is. I know she's wrong. Others are pretty sure she's wrong. But while ever she can rationalise it, can justify it, nobody can do anything. She gets the benefit of the doubt. And we really need to move on and not bog down in ancient history, which is what this story will become. Mind you, it's going in the book I'm writing! Never offend a writer... Our bills - people on Health Care cards (low income earners and people on disability) are supposed to get cheaper health care. However, it is at the discretion of the doctor. My neurologist doesn't bulk bill, but he charges a lot less than easy child 2/difficult child 2's shrink was charging. The neuropsychologist wants to talk to easy child 2/difficult child 2's shrink (the one we're dropping) as well as the neurologist. At least that way we should get some benefit from those appointments. I hope. As long as the shrink doesn't badmouth me as a controlling ratbag parent. Wouldn't put it past her. As for difficult child 3 and computers - his college course is in computers. He continued through his school subjects on computers without pause, while he has taken a lot longer with his other subjects. So he's graduated from high school last year in computers, while he still has several years to go in his other schoolwork. So on the strength of his marks in last year's school computer course (which actually overlapped with college) he is now enrolled in the advanced computer networking course. Three mornings a week. But I don't know how he's going. I'm really anxious to find out. However, because difficult child 3 is a legal adult, it is a lot more difficult for me to find out. The college SpEd is on board for me, but is not as available as the school SpEd. I have to wait for college SpEd to talk to all the college teachers and then get back to me. I can't call the teachers myself. We're in this mess with difficult child 3 because he wants to have it all - his college computing course, and his high school graduation. But he doesn't seem to realise that he actually has to do the work, too. He will not absorb it by simply sitting next to his closed books. His teachers have done everything they can to help, and he just expects more. The difficulty in starting work is something that easy child 2/difficult child 2 and difficult child 1 have both reported also, especially when off their medications. But difficult child 3 is already on a higher dose than is usually prescribed for someone over 18. We tried to cut back but could not manage. I'll know more on Monday, I hope. Marg [/QUOTE]
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