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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 494583" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>It's good that you were able to have such an in depth session with his therapist. I agree it sounds like your son has a dual diagnosis. My daughter does too, her issues did not start at age 14 when she began using pot and drinking. She also had a lot of anger toward us and lived for the moment. She is very impulsive and does not think about or care about consequences. All I can tell you is that she couldn't begin to work on those things until the chemical dependency was addressed. It was almost as if we had to wait until she became dependent on alcohol and pot before she could get help, stop using, and take an indepth look at her life to figure out how to fix it. She is now a very different person than she has ever been. She is respectful towards us, does not ask for anything or feel entitled, is responsible in holding her job and living on her own, does not get angry at the drop of a hat and seems to be more comfortable in her skin now. That doesn't mean she is home free. I believe she will have to work on herself for the rest of her life if she wants to stay sober and be happy. difficult child did see many therapists, psychiatrists, addiction specialists over the years. None of them really knew how to get her change. Once she stopped using she wanted things to be different. She finally realized she hated the way she was living.</p><p></p><p>I truly hope that the additional therapy sessions help. Hopefully the therapist will engage him in aggressive therapy or else he will just linger for years and nothing will be different. Of course he has to want to change and until he sees he does not have to use chemical substances to be happy that won't happen.</p><p></p><p>Please keep us posted on what is happening. You will have good days and bad days in this journey, but hopefully for every step backward he begins to take two forward.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 494583, member: 59"] It's good that you were able to have such an in depth session with his therapist. I agree it sounds like your son has a dual diagnosis. My daughter does too, her issues did not start at age 14 when she began using pot and drinking. She also had a lot of anger toward us and lived for the moment. She is very impulsive and does not think about or care about consequences. All I can tell you is that she couldn't begin to work on those things until the chemical dependency was addressed. It was almost as if we had to wait until she became dependent on alcohol and pot before she could get help, stop using, and take an indepth look at her life to figure out how to fix it. She is now a very different person than she has ever been. She is respectful towards us, does not ask for anything or feel entitled, is responsible in holding her job and living on her own, does not get angry at the drop of a hat and seems to be more comfortable in her skin now. That doesn't mean she is home free. I believe she will have to work on herself for the rest of her life if she wants to stay sober and be happy. difficult child did see many therapists, psychiatrists, addiction specialists over the years. None of them really knew how to get her change. Once she stopped using she wanted things to be different. She finally realized she hated the way she was living. I truly hope that the additional therapy sessions help. Hopefully the therapist will engage him in aggressive therapy or else he will just linger for years and nothing will be different. Of course he has to want to change and until he sees he does not have to use chemical substances to be happy that won't happen. Please keep us posted on what is happening. You will have good days and bad days in this journey, but hopefully for every step backward he begins to take two forward. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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