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<blockquote data-quote="pinevalley" data-source="post: 496687" data-attributes="member: 3710"><p>It sounds like your son is in total denial about what the drinking and pot is doing to his life. Since you have made the decision that you will not allow him to come back home and drink or smoke pot, now you and your wife have to have the strength to stick with this decision. We did the exact same thing with our 18 year old when he was smoking the synthetic weed every day. We gave him a choice of going to rehab or not living in our house, and he chose to live on the streets. Our difficult child even told us that if we forced him to go to rehab he would probably kill himself. That was scary to hear, but he did not want to change his life and the drug use, and he was saying anything to get out of rehab. Anyway, difficult child was living on the streets for only one week, but he was arrested two times when he was not at home and desperate for money. This was a terribly scary time for me, not knowing where he was or if he was safe. He did not have a cell phone, and he was not even going to school at all. I would spend hours driving around to parks and fast food places, trying to see if he was OK. My difficult child was not ready to admit that he had a problem with drugs until he was arrested and spent one night in jail. It took an arrest and the threat of going to prison for difficult child to agree to rehab. </p><p> </p><p>Have you looked into any treatment programs for your son, so that you have a place he could go for treatment sometime in the future? You are doing the right thing for your son by not making it easy for him to live at home and still do drugs. Let's hope that he will soon realize that his life is not working right now with all the drinking and smoking pot, and he will realize that he needs help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pinevalley, post: 496687, member: 3710"] It sounds like your son is in total denial about what the drinking and pot is doing to his life. Since you have made the decision that you will not allow him to come back home and drink or smoke pot, now you and your wife have to have the strength to stick with this decision. We did the exact same thing with our 18 year old when he was smoking the synthetic weed every day. We gave him a choice of going to rehab or not living in our house, and he chose to live on the streets. Our difficult child even told us that if we forced him to go to rehab he would probably kill himself. That was scary to hear, but he did not want to change his life and the drug use, and he was saying anything to get out of rehab. Anyway, difficult child was living on the streets for only one week, but he was arrested two times when he was not at home and desperate for money. This was a terribly scary time for me, not knowing where he was or if he was safe. He did not have a cell phone, and he was not even going to school at all. I would spend hours driving around to parks and fast food places, trying to see if he was OK. My difficult child was not ready to admit that he had a problem with drugs until he was arrested and spent one night in jail. It took an arrest and the threat of going to prison for difficult child to agree to rehab. Have you looked into any treatment programs for your son, so that you have a place he could go for treatment sometime in the future? You are doing the right thing for your son by not making it easy for him to live at home and still do drugs. Let's hope that he will soon realize that his life is not working right now with all the drinking and smoking pot, and he will realize that he needs help. [/QUOTE]
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