progress so far....(court issue)

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by buddy, Jul 2, 2012.

  1. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Got ahold of the officer and she was surprised, said she had never been contacted but she had written a report saying he was disabled etc. She is going to call and find out the name of the prosecutor and see if she can explain that he wont be able to handle this.

    Got ahold of the person covering for our case manager, she said that they have someone in their office who works with their clients when the prosecuting dept is involved so she is going to check with them and also wants to hear what the officer says, she will then herself call the prosecutor.

    The neuro said that she wants to talk to the prosecutor so I told her I'll send her the name as soon as I get it.

    The teacher already wrote a letter and here is what he said:

    All done by 9:30 a.m. Now I sit and wait for further info I guess......
  2. Malika

    Malika Well-Known Member

    Fingers crossed that the case will be thrown out of court. The letter is persuasive. If a judge is not persuaded by it, he is an idiot. Or she, of course... :)
    Last edited: Jul 2, 2012
  3. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    You've done well, Dee. I truly hope the case is thrown out.
  4. Signorina

    Signorina Guest

    Buddy - I continue to be amazed by your strength and grace under pressure.

    I am holding you close in my thoughts and prayers.

    YOU GO GIRL :)
  5. Ktllc

    Ktllc New Member

    You have lots of skilled professionals on your side. I truly believe it will end good for Q. Stay strong and soon it will all be over.
  6. TeDo

    TeDo Guest

    Awesome job lady!!! You're lining up your ducks just as they should be lined up. Wonderful job!! Now, take a break, breathe, relax!! You've done all you can.......for now. *pat on the back*
  7. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Buddy, I'm always moved and inspired by your quiet yet profound strength and courage. You stay centered and move ahead with only your love and protection of your son in your heart. You are truly a warrior Mom of the highest degree with special medals for your grace and compassion. I send you big hugs and prayers for a quick and easy resolution.
  8. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Prosecutor has so far only heard Psycho's side of the story.
    Boy, is that poor prosecutor ever in for an earful...

    Sending {{hugs}} and extra patience...
  9. Buddy I am sending my prayers and good vibes your way that this gets thrown out.

    And I agree - you are truly an amazing warrior mom!
  10. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    I like it! Fingers crossed.
  11. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Great letter! Keeping all body parts crossed and sending up some prayers.
  12. Bunny

    Bunny Guest

    That is a great letter. I hope that whoever reads it really understands what it's saying and that this case gets thrown out. Good luck!
  13. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    I hope when all is said and done, the person who filed charges and the entity that he works for will be investigated for the improper treatment of severly disabled individuals.
  14. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    IIRC, the entity he works for is on Q's side and psychiatric was punished for his part in the whole debacle.
  15. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Thanks guys, he had told me when he wrote it that I would not like what it will say because it will say how truly disabled he is. I think he is still getting to know me because it was probably a reaction to the fact that I didn't like some of his IEP wording but I always have input on the IEP. For this I only asked that he not embellish and make it sound like even with current supports he should be locked away in some state institution (not yet anyway, LOL....really they may need a room for me at the end of all of this parenting stuff...then again, I probably dont get to have an end of parenting stuff so I might be safe from that).

    I think he was super honest but also showed how he is where he needs to be. I also have his current progress report from our in home services, and he met all of his current goals, showing really good progress. His county risk management plan is attached to that, which shows that he always has direct trained supervision around him and lots of family support.

    Our law advocate said that another client who had six felony sexual assault charges against him ( he has FASD and many challenges) went through this process twice and everything was dismissed. Though the second time it happened they dug up the first charges and put them all together, then it was all dismissed again.

    JJJ is right, the highest admin in our district was very upset that psycho did this. I do think that the local admin, that is the principal from he11 that we all got to know so well from the IEP meetings, the one who actually said if Q had any of the behaviors identified in his FBA, and that were being worked on in the IEP and BIP, he would tell all of his employees to complain to HR and ...then he left the threat open. He was challenged on that and he too go spoken to by the director of principals for the district (lots of layers of admin, it is a huge district) and the director of sp. ed. (they have a director, then coordinators who manage several schools each, then each school has the Special Education staff with one admin on site who is their go to person for the school).... The suspicion is that because this principal allowed and encouraged psycho to take the lead in "dealing" with Q when he should have checked, maybe he even knew that this guy had not had any crisis management/prevention training for over a decade...he too got in some trouble. So likely he (and maybe the union rep or a lawyer) advised psycho to press charges to make it look in retrospect like he had good reason to be so aggressive.

    Our neurologist wrote me an email and said she wants to talk directly to the prosecuting attorney asap to let her/him know that she will testify that he is not capable of going through this process, that it may harm him, and so I am still waiting for the officer to get back to me with the name. The substitute for our case manager is also waiting for that name, I am going to call her at 9 to see if she found out anything.

    I suspect getting ahold of anyone after today will be next to impossible. It is likely that even the county prosecutor will not be available this week, if I can't find out helpful answers I am going to call the court administrator and see if there is a way to postpone this date.

    Thanks for letting me share the boring details, it helps to print out my thoughts, I even slept last night.

    I can't say enough thank yous for every post you write, I think it is better than an antidepressant for me, I get this chemical charge that lets me keep in touch with reality and just keep putting one foot in front of the other and take care of business. I'm trying to post on other threads, but am on the phone or email a lot...just know I am reading them, in the car while waiting, or at appointments, and saying prayers and sending positive vibes through the web!
  16. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    If psycho still has a job working with these kiddos in any capacity, then justice has not been done MHO.
  17. buddy

    buddy New Member

    I agree and the law advocate is most concerned about that too. They are filing a dept of ed. complaint and also looking at his licensure. I can't even imagine how I will feel seeing him at this court appearance. Good thing for him I am a very peaceful person.
  18. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    I am glad that the advocate is doing what needs to be done. I have worked in spec. ed. for 4 decades. It only takes one encounter with an incompetent mean spirited individual to undo any good that has been accomplished. For some kiddos, there is no recovery.
  19. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Have you tried calling the court house with your case number and asking for the name of the ADA assigned to the case?