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Psychiatric Disorder? Hmmm.
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<blockquote data-quote="emotionallybankrupt" data-source="post: 314394" data-attributes="member: 8226"><p>There was always an underlying disrespect there, which I couldn't find a reason for. Even other people mentioned it to me, for example the disrespectful way she would speak to me in public places at times. It was quite embarrassing. We'd talk it through forever afterwards, and she'd never admit she saw anything wrong with anything she said or did. </p><p> </p><p>The catalyst for trouble is, and has always been, being denied her way.</p><p> </p><p>The full-blown abuse, however, began right at four years ago, not because the potential had just arrived, but because I finally had found out about some of the "behind my back behaviors" that had been going on a LONG TIME. I think I'm an intelligent woman with good instincts and fairly perceptive, but I never saw it coming. As things would happen, she would present the most convincing arguments and explanations anybody ever heard, and there was never a thing to give her away. I bought it every time.</p><p> </p><p>It was a tip-off from another parent that finally gave me reason to get very sneaky and make some moves that, under normal circumstances, I'd consider to be underhanded. I still think that was the only way I would ever have found out what a huge problem I had, though, and it was high time for me to get a reality check. She's simply that good. And...I was making a fool out of myself, defending her at every turn. She did an absolutely awesome job of presenting herself as the poor victim of horrible rumors, mistaken identity, and quirky misunderstandings. This is still a big part of my betrayal issue.</p><p> </p><p>So, absolutely she's had problems much longer than four years, but as long as she was so successfully "playing" me, the real abuse stayed underground, because she didn't need it yet. We moved into the authority war because I would not allow her to make her own rules. As long as she had me fooled into thinking she was following the rules, we had a fairly peaceful place here, even though still there were some inappropriate attitudes from near the beginning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="emotionallybankrupt, post: 314394, member: 8226"] There was always an underlying disrespect there, which I couldn't find a reason for. Even other people mentioned it to me, for example the disrespectful way she would speak to me in public places at times. It was quite embarrassing. We'd talk it through forever afterwards, and she'd never admit she saw anything wrong with anything she said or did. The catalyst for trouble is, and has always been, being denied her way. The full-blown abuse, however, began right at four years ago, not because the potential had just arrived, but because I finally had found out about some of the "behind my back behaviors" that had been going on a LONG TIME. I think I'm an intelligent woman with good instincts and fairly perceptive, but I never saw it coming. As things would happen, she would present the most convincing arguments and explanations anybody ever heard, and there was never a thing to give her away. I bought it every time. It was a tip-off from another parent that finally gave me reason to get very sneaky and make some moves that, under normal circumstances, I'd consider to be underhanded. I still think that was the only way I would ever have found out what a huge problem I had, though, and it was high time for me to get a reality check. She's simply that good. And...I was making a fool out of myself, defending her at every turn. She did an absolutely awesome job of presenting herself as the poor victim of horrible rumors, mistaken identity, and quirky misunderstandings. This is still a big part of my betrayal issue. So, absolutely she's had problems much longer than four years, but as long as she was so successfully "playing" me, the real abuse stayed underground, because she didn't need it yet. We moved into the authority war because I would not allow her to make her own rules. As long as she had me fooled into thinking she was following the rules, we had a fairly peaceful place here, even though still there were some inappropriate attitudes from near the beginning. [/QUOTE]
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