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Psychiatric Disorder? Hmmm.
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 315680" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>My difficult child 1 has a personality disorder and her treatment of me and her siblings is similar to your daughter's. I had to put her up in an apartment at age 21 just to get her out of my house. I was called obsenities everyday for years. Do I love her..yes. Do I like her..sometimes. How do I resolve the abusive side of her? I take care of myself. It serves me no purpose to dwell on it so I just stay away when she is in a "mood" and if on the phone I end the conversation if she becomes abusive. Then I do something for me. Whether it be meditate or a movie or a walk through an antique store I refuse to let it getme down and I refuse to internalize it or even carry it. Some times I do need to talk to husband about it just to vent but I find I do not loose much of my life over it anymore. It takes diliberate practice but does become easier over time. I have learned not to ever expect an apology nor for her to see how she hurts others. She is who she is and I feel it is genetic as she is no different than her paternal grandmother and my father. Controlling, manipulative, self absorbed, frequently abusive, never at fault and horribly unhappy with her live. All her therapy has only helped her to rationalize her behavior and villify everyone else. Instead of working on herself she goes around diagnosing everyone else. I hope she will change. I figure there is a 50/50 chance. I say that because my mother in law didn't but my Father did after he got cancer. </p><p> </p><p>That said, she and I have our good times too and I try to just focus on them. Of course it is easier to do that when they are not under your roof. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 315680, member: 2315"] My difficult child 1 has a personality disorder and her treatment of me and her siblings is similar to your daughter's. I had to put her up in an apartment at age 21 just to get her out of my house. I was called obsenities everyday for years. Do I love her..yes. Do I like her..sometimes. How do I resolve the abusive side of her? I take care of myself. It serves me no purpose to dwell on it so I just stay away when she is in a "mood" and if on the phone I end the conversation if she becomes abusive. Then I do something for me. Whether it be meditate or a movie or a walk through an antique store I refuse to let it getme down and I refuse to internalize it or even carry it. Some times I do need to talk to husband about it just to vent but I find I do not loose much of my life over it anymore. It takes diliberate practice but does become easier over time. I have learned not to ever expect an apology nor for her to see how she hurts others. She is who she is and I feel it is genetic as she is no different than her paternal grandmother and my father. Controlling, manipulative, self absorbed, frequently abusive, never at fault and horribly unhappy with her live. All her therapy has only helped her to rationalize her behavior and villify everyone else. Instead of working on herself she goes around diagnosing everyone else. I hope she will change. I figure there is a 50/50 chance. I say that because my mother in law didn't but my Father did after he got cancer. That said, she and I have our good times too and I try to just focus on them. Of course it is easier to do that when they are not under your roof. -RM [/QUOTE]
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