I hate hearing about situations like this!! Our SD supposedly had a zero tolerance policy for bullying. difficult child 2 was constantly a "target" in one of his science classes. I hand delivered a letter addressed to the SPED director, the principal, his teacher, and guidance/adjustment counselor. The letter I received back sounded like a joke, I couldn't believe the principal actually sent it to me! It basically stated that a thorough investigation had been completed, the students supposedly involved were all excellent students, were questioned and denied everything difficult child 2 told me. The final paragraph mentioned the zero tolerance policy, etc., etc., that I should contact them again should I ever have any other concerns. What "GARBAGE!!"
Finally, difficult child 2 brought home evidence. Someone had drawn a very inappropriate picture on the cover of one of his notebooks, complete with the phrase, "This is difficult child 2's "d**k." I copied this picture and included it with a second hand delivered letter. By this time, we were on our way to hearing and I got a different kind of response. I was basically told that they had no idea how this could have possibly happened, were very upset that this type of behavior occurred in one of their classrooms, and have taken what they believed to be appropriate measures. The principal spoke to all of the students in the classroom (difficult child 2 was in a meeting with-his guidance/adjustment counselor while this was going on), explained that this type of behavior will not be tolerated, and if he found out who did this, that student would be suspended.
Of course the student who did it was never found. To make matters worse, difficult child 1 told me that difficult child 2 had become the source of much laughing, nasty jokes, because of this. While it is so sad that difficult child 2 lacks basic social skills, in this case it was a blessing. difficult child 2 had no idea that so many kids were laughing at his expense.
I'm so sad/sorry to hear this happened to thank you. I hope your school has a better policy in place for treating bullying. SFR