TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
Most of you know that easy child moved out this yr, due to difficult child's behavior. She moved back in, on the premise that she would have and use the lock on her door, both to keep difficult child out, and to keep off-limits things in.
We also agreed that she would have her own laundry basket and do her own laundry, and would not have to do our laundry.
We agreed she would help clean the house, as she is a partner and family member. (I have specific tasks for her.)
We agreed she would have a curfew of 11 on weeknights and 12 or 1 a.m. on weekends. (She is 18.)
She has broken every agreement.
The one that has me steamed at the moment, is that my husband gave her our credit card and let her buy junk food at the grocery store while difficult child was at camp. I told her to have it all eaten or put away in her room when he returned.
Of course, she didn't. I warned her Wed. and Thurs. She agreed. Then I cut her some slack, and stacked it all outside of her bedroom last night. She walked right past it today and went out with-her boyfriend. She even called me to tell me where she was going, and said she'd forgotten to take the food out of the hallway.
I bagged up all the wheat cereals and other junk food, and considered giving it away to a friend of mine.
husband had a fit and said he thought it would be better to have easy child earn it back.
She lost her computer mouse this a.m. because she didn't do anything around the house. She didn't care ... because she knew she'd be out with-friends or working most of the time.
husband and I are going to take her car keys tonight and she has to earn them back. Now THAT will impact her.
Sheesh. She's turning into a difficult child. The whole point of her moving out was to give her emotional space and safety. She's got that. Now, she's taking advantage. Plus, leaving out wheat products is like bait for difficult child. (She's got more in the freezer, like frozen french toast.)
Just one more rant ... she is supposed to pay half of her cell ph bill ea mo. She didn't make any $ this winter, and is working 2 PT jobs this summer. She got tons of $ from friends and family for graduation gifts, and combined with-her work checks, has a plump acct.
I suggested I transfer the $ she owes from her savings to our chkg acct. She wanted to pay it $50 at a time. I gave it some thought and decided against it, since she has owed it since Christmas and it just keeps accruing, so I called her and told her I was transferring it today.
She just doesn't get it.
Any of it.
We also agreed that she would have her own laundry basket and do her own laundry, and would not have to do our laundry.
We agreed she would help clean the house, as she is a partner and family member. (I have specific tasks for her.)
We agreed she would have a curfew of 11 on weeknights and 12 or 1 a.m. on weekends. (She is 18.)
She has broken every agreement.
The one that has me steamed at the moment, is that my husband gave her our credit card and let her buy junk food at the grocery store while difficult child was at camp. I told her to have it all eaten or put away in her room when he returned.
Of course, she didn't. I warned her Wed. and Thurs. She agreed. Then I cut her some slack, and stacked it all outside of her bedroom last night. She walked right past it today and went out with-her boyfriend. She even called me to tell me where she was going, and said she'd forgotten to take the food out of the hallway.
I bagged up all the wheat cereals and other junk food, and considered giving it away to a friend of mine.
husband had a fit and said he thought it would be better to have easy child earn it back.
She lost her computer mouse this a.m. because she didn't do anything around the house. She didn't care ... because she knew she'd be out with-friends or working most of the time.
husband and I are going to take her car keys tonight and she has to earn them back. Now THAT will impact her.
Sheesh. She's turning into a difficult child. The whole point of her moving out was to give her emotional space and safety. She's got that. Now, she's taking advantage. Plus, leaving out wheat products is like bait for difficult child. (She's got more in the freezer, like frozen french toast.)
Just one more rant ... she is supposed to pay half of her cell ph bill ea mo. She didn't make any $ this winter, and is working 2 PT jobs this summer. She got tons of $ from friends and family for graduation gifts, and combined with-her work checks, has a plump acct.
I suggested I transfer the $ she owes from her savings to our chkg acct. She wanted to pay it $50 at a time. I gave it some thought and decided against it, since she has owed it since Christmas and it just keeps accruing, so I called her and told her I was transferring it today.
She just doesn't get it.
Any of it.