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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 44626" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Cyndi, you posted "IT DIDN'T FAZE HIM!!! I WAS ASTONISHED!!! ANY OTHER KIDS WOULD HAVE BEEN IN TEARS, SOBBING! He had been asking for it for MONTHS! NOTHING! NO REACTION WHATSOEVER!!!!!!! UGH! "</p><p></p><p>Honey, THAT is a reaction. NO reaction, after he'd been begging for it for months. Just because he held it together - doesn't mean you didn't get through. I'd say you got through, BIG time. He'd been begging for months, and you took it back - WHY didn't he react? Under any other circumstances, he would have. He'd been nagging.</p><p></p><p>No, he did his absolute utmost to not give you the satisfaction of thinking you'd got to him.</p><p></p><p>Which means you got to him.</p><p></p><p>The aim of punishment like this is NOT to upset them, but to make restitution and also try to get the message through to them. We sometimes feel that if we don't see tears we've not made an impact. </p><p></p><p>Not so.</p><p></p><p>Cyndi, what you did at Christmas is going to stay with him for the rest of his life. I think you've succeeded in showing him that when he breaks something, steals something or similar, the person he has hurt will feel as bad as he did the day you took his toy back to the store.</p><p></p><p>Have faith in yourself.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 44626, member: 1991"] Cyndi, you posted "IT DIDN'T FAZE HIM!!! I WAS ASTONISHED!!! ANY OTHER KIDS WOULD HAVE BEEN IN TEARS, SOBBING! He had been asking for it for MONTHS! NOTHING! NO REACTION WHATSOEVER!!!!!!! UGH! " Honey, THAT is a reaction. NO reaction, after he'd been begging for it for months. Just because he held it together - doesn't mean you didn't get through. I'd say you got through, BIG time. He'd been begging for months, and you took it back - WHY didn't he react? Under any other circumstances, he would have. He'd been nagging. No, he did his absolute utmost to not give you the satisfaction of thinking you'd got to him. Which means you got to him. The aim of punishment like this is NOT to upset them, but to make restitution and also try to get the message through to them. We sometimes feel that if we don't see tears we've not made an impact. Not so. Cyndi, what you did at Christmas is going to stay with him for the rest of his life. I think you've succeeded in showing him that when he breaks something, steals something or similar, the person he has hurt will feel as bad as he did the day you took his toy back to the store. Have faith in yourself. Marg [/QUOTE]
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