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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 459566" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Perhaps I have been understood to be saying more than I am actually qualified to say or have intended to say. My direct experience of the French school system is limited to this one village school. Beyond that I have the anecdotal input of friends, who talk about an often rigid system and harsh teaching methods. I think it is very probable that there are teachers within the system who are more caring, knowledgeable and human in their approach. As a whole, though, the French national education system does prioritise intellect and academic learning and I feel that the kind of qualities I would really want in a school would be found only in the alternative system in France - for those to whom it means anything, I am talking about Freinet schools, Montessori schools, the forest school I found and the like. </p><p>At the same time as all that I genuinely don't feel great reproach or blame of the village school teacher. She didn't know anything about ADHD but has been willing to learn (albeit probably more for personal than altruistic reasons) and although her style is quite rigid and severe, she seems reasonably fond of J and J is reasonably fond of her. So she must be doing something right. And I too am learning and feeling my way in this whole ADHD thing. I don't have specific demands of the school other than that they try to take on board that J probably needs a different approach to learning and being and this they seem to be doing. It is much better than I might have presumed from the outset, to be honest. The two assistants at the school are really nice and seem very good with children. The confusing element also is that the teacher tells me, and I have no reason to think she is not telling the truth about that, that J is eager to learn and concentrates well in class. His "best friend" - ie the only other boy in the class - told me the other day, very solemnly, "J is very, very good in class" <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> So the teacher can also be forgiven at this early stage for not really understanding that there is an issue or what the issue is... </p><p>I think I am reacting more to my own knowledge of how J is when he doesn't want to do something and just not wanting school to become this kind of nightmare for him (and me). With the childminder he doesn't want to go to, for example, he will start a campaign of repeated crying and complaining that he doesn't want to go which reaches crescendo, tantrum point in the car as we are on the way to her house... Imagine this happening every morning for school. No thank you <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I'm probably being as selfish as I am thinking of J in trying to arrange things so that he keeps wanting to go to school <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 459566, member: 11227"] Perhaps I have been understood to be saying more than I am actually qualified to say or have intended to say. My direct experience of the French school system is limited to this one village school. Beyond that I have the anecdotal input of friends, who talk about an often rigid system and harsh teaching methods. I think it is very probable that there are teachers within the system who are more caring, knowledgeable and human in their approach. As a whole, though, the French national education system does prioritise intellect and academic learning and I feel that the kind of qualities I would really want in a school would be found only in the alternative system in France - for those to whom it means anything, I am talking about Freinet schools, Montessori schools, the forest school I found and the like. At the same time as all that I genuinely don't feel great reproach or blame of the village school teacher. She didn't know anything about ADHD but has been willing to learn (albeit probably more for personal than altruistic reasons) and although her style is quite rigid and severe, she seems reasonably fond of J and J is reasonably fond of her. So she must be doing something right. And I too am learning and feeling my way in this whole ADHD thing. I don't have specific demands of the school other than that they try to take on board that J probably needs a different approach to learning and being and this they seem to be doing. It is much better than I might have presumed from the outset, to be honest. The two assistants at the school are really nice and seem very good with children. The confusing element also is that the teacher tells me, and I have no reason to think she is not telling the truth about that, that J is eager to learn and concentrates well in class. His "best friend" - ie the only other boy in the class - told me the other day, very solemnly, "J is very, very good in class" :) So the teacher can also be forgiven at this early stage for not really understanding that there is an issue or what the issue is... I think I am reacting more to my own knowledge of how J is when he doesn't want to do something and just not wanting school to become this kind of nightmare for him (and me). With the childminder he doesn't want to go to, for example, he will start a campaign of repeated crying and complaining that he doesn't want to go which reaches crescendo, tantrum point in the car as we are on the way to her house... Imagine this happening every morning for school. No thank you :) I'm probably being as selfish as I am thinking of J in trying to arrange things so that he keeps wanting to go to school :) [/QUOTE]
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