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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 31641" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>A lot of it comes from being the age that they are. Daughter acts like she is "co-parent" to Son. Will constantly argue with me about my decisions with him. And, frankly, herself. When I try and help her with her reactivity to peers( a very big problem for her)she calls my guidance "stupid".</p><p></p><p>Calling me a liar? Daughter wouldn't dare. I would hit her where she lives. That meaning, the few designer things she has would be gone. And she knows I mean it. As far as leaving school, well, I promised Daughter if she did something like that I would show up on her school common area, during lunch, in a threadbare bathrobe, hair in rollers (with one barely hanging on), and begin to bleat her name and plead with her peers as to her whereabouts. Daughter is terrified of me embarrassing her, so ditching and leaving campus has never been a problem because I would do it in a heartbeat. </p><p></p><p>Daughter is a slob, too. However, I stopped doing her laundry when she turned 13. She is completely responsible for it. No, I don't always like how she does it, but it's one less headache I deal with. </p><p></p><p>As far as getting them to do what you want. Would a dangling a carrot help? Something that they really like, but won't allow until they do their chores? I know that I will not allow daughter her computer time during the week unless she helps clean the kitchen after dinner. </p><p></p><p>I would agree about evaluations and therapy. Living with a difficult child is so very stressful and it doesn't evaporate when the difficult child is out of the home. Combine that with the typical teen issues and it's a powder keg of emotions for a teen, and preteen, to cope with. </p><p></p><p>Honestly, sometimes I just want to kick Daughter to the curb and not allow her back in my home until she's done with college (I hope!) and paying her own way!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 31641, member: 831"] A lot of it comes from being the age that they are. Daughter acts like she is "co-parent" to Son. Will constantly argue with me about my decisions with him. And, frankly, herself. When I try and help her with her reactivity to peers( a very big problem for her)she calls my guidance "stupid". Calling me a liar? Daughter wouldn't dare. I would hit her where she lives. That meaning, the few designer things she has would be gone. And she knows I mean it. As far as leaving school, well, I promised Daughter if she did something like that I would show up on her school common area, during lunch, in a threadbare bathrobe, hair in rollers (with one barely hanging on), and begin to bleat her name and plead with her peers as to her whereabouts. Daughter is terrified of me embarrassing her, so ditching and leaving campus has never been a problem because I would do it in a heartbeat. Daughter is a slob, too. However, I stopped doing her laundry when she turned 13. She is completely responsible for it. No, I don't always like how she does it, but it's one less headache I deal with. As far as getting them to do what you want. Would a dangling a carrot help? Something that they really like, but won't allow until they do their chores? I know that I will not allow daughter her computer time during the week unless she helps clean the kitchen after dinner. I would agree about evaluations and therapy. Living with a difficult child is so very stressful and it doesn't evaporate when the difficult child is out of the home. Combine that with the typical teen issues and it's a powder keg of emotions for a teen, and preteen, to cope with. Honestly, sometimes I just want to kick Daughter to the curb and not allow her back in my home until she's done with college (I hope!) and paying her own way! [/QUOTE]
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