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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 276216" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Yesterday we went to the 'family counseling' session. It wasn't so bad, but ultimately they aren't going to help us.</p><p> </p><p>They are going to release him to us probably on Monday (tomorrow). They talked about his issues, think he has bipolar, said he adjusted very well to the hospital and hasn't been a problem (altho he apparently did have to go to the 'quiet room' on Wednesday). They think he lied only about 60% of the time in his therapy sessions which is good and they don't see too much (relative to other patients) negative behavior. She wondered what the event that brought him to the hospital was, and recognized that his prognosis was not good and that he'd be well served in a residential facility which he apparently was asking questions about.</p><p> </p><p>When we talked she was surprised at what we said and concerned and when she signed us out told the nurse at the desk that our session opened up a can of worms for the psychiatrist. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child was brought in and she talked to him. He focused on he threw away our stuff and his stuff because he was jealous other people had things but he didn't. She explored the logic of him throwing away his own DS and then throwing away his sister's DS because he didn't have one. He threw away other people's stuff because he was jealous but had no answer as to why he threw away his stuff (the therapist later said it was likely his attempt to throw awa his anger).</p><p> </p><p>He wanted to have new stuff bought for him so he's not jealous of what other people have and throws it away, and suggested we guard it from him so he doesn't throw his own stuff away. That was vetoed.</p><p> </p><p>He said on a scale of 1-10, 10 being happiest, he was only a 2 at home, but he did want to leave the hospital and come home. He was going to be successful because he was going to apply his coping skills and the problems would stop. The therapist asked him are you only telling me what you think I want to hear and he said no. The therapist doesn't believe him. She took him back to his room.</p><p> </p><p>She thinks he will be hospitalized again and again. Their residential program is for mood disorders plus addiction problems. She suggested contacting DCF and the judge to get him admitted to a residential. She thought he'd do well there. When signing out we said we had 90 days of insurance and the staff seemed interested and said they'd ask the psychiatrist for recommendations. </p><p> </p><p>The therapist says they would recommend residential to DCF if his regular therapist and psychiatrist who know him better recommend that. We are to standby on Monday in case he's released--we'll get a couple hours notice.</p><p> </p><p>So that's it, all's well, they've done all they can do for him, he needs another program, good luck finding one, he's at a crossroads, he needs to make different decisions right now, he's on thin ice, but probably she'll never see him again and good luck.</p><p> </p><p>husband seems interested in residential, but also interested at trying him at home again, but also acknowledges that there will be no difference. I said on the ride home, "I probably shouldn't tell you this, but I was sitting at a 3/4 angle to him and there was one point, well...his face--"</p><p> </p><p>And husband said, "I saw it too." I'm not sure what husband saw but I saw a criminal, sullen and older than a 12 year old.</p><p> </p><p>We were glum on the ride home, and decided to stop off at Tijuana Taxi Company for mango marguritas and a mexican dinner. That cheered us up and we spent the rest of the day lying on the couch watching tv. </p><p> </p><p>I hope Tuesday husband calls DCF and the judicial assistant to difficult child's judge and pushes for residential treatment. But if he doesn't, he will at the next incident. </p><p> </p><p>So we are no better off than we were, except maybe husband and I can have a nice day today with-o difficult child and with-o bickering (he did apologize for losing control the other night).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 276216, member: 5169"] Yesterday we went to the 'family counseling' session. It wasn't so bad, but ultimately they aren't going to help us. They are going to release him to us probably on Monday (tomorrow). They talked about his issues, think he has bipolar, said he adjusted very well to the hospital and hasn't been a problem (altho he apparently did have to go to the 'quiet room' on Wednesday). They think he lied only about 60% of the time in his therapy sessions which is good and they don't see too much (relative to other patients) negative behavior. She wondered what the event that brought him to the hospital was, and recognized that his prognosis was not good and that he'd be well served in a residential facility which he apparently was asking questions about. When we talked she was surprised at what we said and concerned and when she signed us out told the nurse at the desk that our session opened up a can of worms for the psychiatrist. difficult child was brought in and she talked to him. He focused on he threw away our stuff and his stuff because he was jealous other people had things but he didn't. She explored the logic of him throwing away his own DS and then throwing away his sister's DS because he didn't have one. He threw away other people's stuff because he was jealous but had no answer as to why he threw away his stuff (the therapist later said it was likely his attempt to throw awa his anger). He wanted to have new stuff bought for him so he's not jealous of what other people have and throws it away, and suggested we guard it from him so he doesn't throw his own stuff away. That was vetoed. He said on a scale of 1-10, 10 being happiest, he was only a 2 at home, but he did want to leave the hospital and come home. He was going to be successful because he was going to apply his coping skills and the problems would stop. The therapist asked him are you only telling me what you think I want to hear and he said no. The therapist doesn't believe him. She took him back to his room. She thinks he will be hospitalized again and again. Their residential program is for mood disorders plus addiction problems. She suggested contacting DCF and the judge to get him admitted to a residential. She thought he'd do well there. When signing out we said we had 90 days of insurance and the staff seemed interested and said they'd ask the psychiatrist for recommendations. The therapist says they would recommend residential to DCF if his regular therapist and psychiatrist who know him better recommend that. We are to standby on Monday in case he's released--we'll get a couple hours notice. So that's it, all's well, they've done all they can do for him, he needs another program, good luck finding one, he's at a crossroads, he needs to make different decisions right now, he's on thin ice, but probably she'll never see him again and good luck. husband seems interested in residential, but also interested at trying him at home again, but also acknowledges that there will be no difference. I said on the ride home, "I probably shouldn't tell you this, but I was sitting at a 3/4 angle to him and there was one point, well...his face--" And husband said, "I saw it too." I'm not sure what husband saw but I saw a criminal, sullen and older than a 12 year old. We were glum on the ride home, and decided to stop off at Tijuana Taxi Company for mango marguritas and a mexican dinner. That cheered us up and we spent the rest of the day lying on the couch watching tv. I hope Tuesday husband calls DCF and the judicial assistant to difficult child's judge and pushes for residential treatment. But if he doesn't, he will at the next incident. So we are no better off than we were, except maybe husband and I can have a nice day today with-o difficult child and with-o bickering (he did apologize for losing control the other night). [/QUOTE]
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