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<blockquote data-quote="lovelyboy" data-source="post: 564171" data-attributes="member: 8045"><p>I am so sorry about this situation! I know that fear of will this behaviour get worse or is it just appropriate for his age....Some get better, other behaviours get worse....and then better again!</p><p>What worked for me in the past and still do: When you have recovered of your own feelings....sit down and discuss ALTERNATIVE options for the future....Especially with our kids it doesnt help to just punish or get angry, because they dont always make the connection! We also need to FOLLOW UP with a learning opportunity....because they some times struggle with "feed forward"(what will happen next when I do X).....we need to go through different scenarios of " what will happen if we did X"....what do you think would have been a better plan? What would have been the outcome of the " better plan"... Exct. Also take a step back and try to find out WHY he spesificly didnt want to stay in after care this afternoon? Did he feel upset, was he tired, did some one make him angry, was he afraid....and then AGAIN....what can we do if we " feel sad/ angry/ upst" exct.</p><p>Hope both of you are feeling better already!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovelyboy, post: 564171, member: 8045"] I am so sorry about this situation! I know that fear of will this behaviour get worse or is it just appropriate for his age....Some get better, other behaviours get worse....and then better again! What worked for me in the past and still do: When you have recovered of your own feelings....sit down and discuss ALTERNATIVE options for the future....Especially with our kids it doesnt help to just punish or get angry, because they dont always make the connection! We also need to FOLLOW UP with a learning opportunity....because they some times struggle with "feed forward"(what will happen next when I do X).....we need to go through different scenarios of " what will happen if we did X"....what do you think would have been a better plan? What would have been the outcome of the " better plan"... Exct. Also take a step back and try to find out WHY he spesificly didnt want to stay in after care this afternoon? Did he feel upset, was he tired, did some one make him angry, was he afraid....and then AGAIN....what can we do if we " feel sad/ angry/ upst" exct. Hope both of you are feeling better already! [/QUOTE]
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