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The meeting was stupid of course. They wanted to talk about his strengths and weaknesses AGAIN and ultimately it was to make everyone say that they feel he needs a restrictive placement. We again emphasized that going from a mainstream setting to the most intensive restrictive (practically alone all day) placement is not offering a continuum of services and it is not an option.
OK.... back up...... Q was already freaked out as usual because when he knows we are having a meeting his anxiety goes up. He again started with the God questions and when will they decide if I can go to school etc. I got him mc donalds and a shake (yeah not good) on the way to my mom's and then she was going to take him to the library where we would meet him and bring him in.
he wouldn't give me my straw so I reached back to grab it and he pulled back and I grabbed onto the shake that was tipping and he squeezed and ...shamrock shake all over the car, thank you very much. He was so mad but I would not get a new one.
So took him to mom's and they did ok and while we were at the meeting I warned the home bound person that he has always, 100% of the time fallen apart on meeting days.
ok...back to the meeting....
Bottom line they wanted me to agree to SUN2 AND THEN have the team talk about other options that they are sure they have blah blah blah. I said, by the time he is there people will say he has to prove he can do this or that and it will NEVER happen. I have been there with him. He just needs to be put into the situation and learn with support right in the actual situation. Well we need to have a team and there has to be a team to do the IEP and to identify those people we need a placement, UMMMM NO, we dont need an IEP to meet with those people, find out if what they think they could do can really be done, we can meet and get them to state if it is doable and then everyone on paper agree to that (it is called a draft) and then when I make the decision we can re-write the IEP knowing those services are actually going to be happening.
They finally agreed to the meeting, the voc rehab people will be there (they kept saying JR year again, I said no way...we start NOW)
So....we go back to the library, Q is clearly fired up....but got in my car, asked about God again, I reassured him he is fine again, he got out went into the room with the two teachers and 15 minutes later they say he is videoing things and saying bad words...can you take it from him... Really predictable he would come after me at that point so he did, came running out punching and kicking... he went back in and sat down... I said, you know he erases it and it wont be on FB or anything... why not tell him to video tape the math problems and his doing the answers etc.
so they go back in...start to pay a game together to see if he will join... UMMMM remember, two adults talking around him is a TRIGGER.
So I see them walk out because he is spitting and upset.
I remind them that this is a trigger that has been identified for years. Plus the girl who is with her is associated with the middle school so any behaviors associated with that site are in his mind as he pictures his times with her. It is how his brain works. They are going to see if there is a district place they can meet with him, welll...that is what I suggested from the beginning.
DUH
SO I told them to just go home. No they are worried for me. I said, if you stay here it will be a problem. If you leave it will be fine. They hang out.... he is panicking and comes out and hits me in the side of my head and kicks me. I tell them to leave and he runs up and hugs me, I'm sorry mom, can we just go??? so we left and he is so upset.
they did agree for me to have a tour with an independent Special Education. district that they dont even have a membership with but it is one that my advocate likes. They are building a state of the art building designed for unique learners that was created by people who use gentle teaching approaches etc. I have not been allowed to tour because of confidentiality, they will only show parents referred there. Our district always says no according to the advocate. It costs over 100,000/dollars per year to send a student there. BUT they said they will let me choose that site as a district placement, provide transport and the law advocate says that means they are really scared. In all her years of asking for that, they have NEVER agreed to it. (One kid was already there when the family moved in district, and they did leave him there so they do have that kid there though)
Not sure it is what I want but at least there is an option.
OK.... back up...... Q was already freaked out as usual because when he knows we are having a meeting his anxiety goes up. He again started with the God questions and when will they decide if I can go to school etc. I got him mc donalds and a shake (yeah not good) on the way to my mom's and then she was going to take him to the library where we would meet him and bring him in.
he wouldn't give me my straw so I reached back to grab it and he pulled back and I grabbed onto the shake that was tipping and he squeezed and ...shamrock shake all over the car, thank you very much. He was so mad but I would not get a new one.
So took him to mom's and they did ok and while we were at the meeting I warned the home bound person that he has always, 100% of the time fallen apart on meeting days.
ok...back to the meeting....
Bottom line they wanted me to agree to SUN2 AND THEN have the team talk about other options that they are sure they have blah blah blah. I said, by the time he is there people will say he has to prove he can do this or that and it will NEVER happen. I have been there with him. He just needs to be put into the situation and learn with support right in the actual situation. Well we need to have a team and there has to be a team to do the IEP and to identify those people we need a placement, UMMMM NO, we dont need an IEP to meet with those people, find out if what they think they could do can really be done, we can meet and get them to state if it is doable and then everyone on paper agree to that (it is called a draft) and then when I make the decision we can re-write the IEP knowing those services are actually going to be happening.
They finally agreed to the meeting, the voc rehab people will be there (they kept saying JR year again, I said no way...we start NOW)
So....we go back to the library, Q is clearly fired up....but got in my car, asked about God again, I reassured him he is fine again, he got out went into the room with the two teachers and 15 minutes later they say he is videoing things and saying bad words...can you take it from him... Really predictable he would come after me at that point so he did, came running out punching and kicking... he went back in and sat down... I said, you know he erases it and it wont be on FB or anything... why not tell him to video tape the math problems and his doing the answers etc.
so they go back in...start to pay a game together to see if he will join... UMMMM remember, two adults talking around him is a TRIGGER.
So I see them walk out because he is spitting and upset.
I remind them that this is a trigger that has been identified for years. Plus the girl who is with her is associated with the middle school so any behaviors associated with that site are in his mind as he pictures his times with her. It is how his brain works. They are going to see if there is a district place they can meet with him, welll...that is what I suggested from the beginning.
DUH
SO I told them to just go home. No they are worried for me. I said, if you stay here it will be a problem. If you leave it will be fine. They hang out.... he is panicking and comes out and hits me in the side of my head and kicks me. I tell them to leave and he runs up and hugs me, I'm sorry mom, can we just go??? so we left and he is so upset.
they did agree for me to have a tour with an independent Special Education. district that they dont even have a membership with but it is one that my advocate likes. They are building a state of the art building designed for unique learners that was created by people who use gentle teaching approaches etc. I have not been allowed to tour because of confidentiality, they will only show parents referred there. Our district always says no according to the advocate. It costs over 100,000/dollars per year to send a student there. BUT they said they will let me choose that site as a district placement, provide transport and the law advocate says that means they are really scared. In all her years of asking for that, they have NEVER agreed to it. (One kid was already there when the family moved in district, and they did leave him there so they do have that kid there though)
Not sure it is what I want but at least there is an option.
