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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 636245" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p>Witzend & dstc_99 --- Thanks for your insights, thoughts, and well wishes sent our way. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I started to look up the red tablets on-line, but quickly saw that there are perhaps 100 red tablets it could be -- everything from the very awful to the very innocent. In the past, I would've spent hours trying to identify what was what. In the present, I no longer try to micromanage difficult child. Even when I did, it didn't change his behavior and it just made me batty. LOL! As he no longer lives here (hasn't for years, and won't ever again), I've found it better to let go of micromanaging him. The only thing that matters is what's in MY life and home, directly. So, I got rid of the pills (and tampons.....sorry, should've written that earlier). <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I have come to conclude that each of us has the power, the freedom and the responsibility for our own happiness. As difficult child is now an adult (age 24), he is responsible for his journey in health and happiness. And I am responsible for my journey in health and happiness. I don't even want to know all of the details of his life any more -- unless they directly affect me. As these items are gone, they no longer directly affect me. Gone, gone, gone.</p><p></p><p>I can't say what works best for everyone. But separating what is truly "mine" to carry (vs what is "his" to carry) brings me greater health and happiness. </p><p></p><p>His load is VERY heavy. Not my load. His. Besides, even if I carried his load (which I tried to), it didn't change anything. IF it would change him, I'd gladly carry his load. But it does not, so I do not. I spent maaaaany looooong hours contemplating this over the years.</p><p></p><p>That's the beauty of individual journeys.....Free Will. And I'm very grateful for my Free Will! Sometimes letting go is the greater part of valor.....and, even, love.</p><p></p><p>Thanks again and thanks for listening to me put that out there. Sometimes writing things down helps me clarify my thoughts, and then cement them into healthier action. Thanks!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 636245, member: 18284"] Witzend & dstc_99 --- Thanks for your insights, thoughts, and well wishes sent our way. :) I started to look up the red tablets on-line, but quickly saw that there are perhaps 100 red tablets it could be -- everything from the very awful to the very innocent. In the past, I would've spent hours trying to identify what was what. In the present, I no longer try to micromanage difficult child. Even when I did, it didn't change his behavior and it just made me batty. LOL! As he no longer lives here (hasn't for years, and won't ever again), I've found it better to let go of micromanaging him. The only thing that matters is what's in MY life and home, directly. So, I got rid of the pills (and tampons.....sorry, should've written that earlier). :) I have come to conclude that each of us has the power, the freedom and the responsibility for our own happiness. As difficult child is now an adult (age 24), he is responsible for his journey in health and happiness. And I am responsible for my journey in health and happiness. I don't even want to know all of the details of his life any more -- unless they directly affect me. As these items are gone, they no longer directly affect me. Gone, gone, gone. I can't say what works best for everyone. But separating what is truly "mine" to carry (vs what is "his" to carry) brings me greater health and happiness. His load is VERY heavy. Not my load. His. Besides, even if I carried his load (which I tried to), it didn't change anything. IF it would change him, I'd gladly carry his load. But it does not, so I do not. I spent maaaaany looooong hours contemplating this over the years. That's the beauty of individual journeys.....Free Will. And I'm very grateful for my Free Will! Sometimes letting go is the greater part of valor.....and, even, love. Thanks again and thanks for listening to me put that out there. Sometimes writing things down helps me clarify my thoughts, and then cement them into healthier action. Thanks! [/QUOTE]
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