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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 480735" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>JJJ, I don't know if that is due to a MH disability for Kanga- I just don't know- medicaid dropped difficult child when he went to the custody of Department of Juvenile Justice- he doesn't qualify for squat as a MH issue. They can't claim him independent. I'm not getting answers from PO or anybody on this kind of stuff- I get pats on the head and 'don't worry about it'.</p><p></p><p>I don't quite get how my parental rights lessen if difficult child is in a group home from what they are when he's incarcerated in Department of Juvenile Justice. The thing is- if PO has this as 'the goal'- to get difficult child on his own- then why has he told me otherwise? And he bought into this woman's push for long term group home so quickly, does he even know this is what is going on? I want an attny to call the super- I can't figure out how much of POs words are just meant to manipulate me, how much are his not knowing, how much are his not being decisive, etc....this is their way in our CSU. KOI- if you have control and responsibility- tell the truth, Know what I mean?? Why is a PO telling me that rreunification and coming back home is the goal if it really isn't? Then turning around blaming me or making me look like a fool because iI expect to have some input on that?</p><p></p><p>I do know that I had consultations with 2 different attnys here a few mos ago and both told me that my last jurisdiction lied to me and that I should have had representation, even though it was difficult child in court. I never knew- it was my son that broke the law and I was trying to support the system. He had a defense attny and a GAL. My money went to services for him and attnys for him as long as I could afford private ones and an attny to fight that custody case from my bro. WTH did I need an attny?</p><p></p><p>They know they have a problem with parents walking from kids once the kid is in Department of Juvenile Justice in this state- it isn't always due to the parent being unfit or wanting to disown the kid. Seriously, this seems stupid to me- they could spend less money and help difficult child and give us a chance to reunite, in my humble opinion, for a lot less cost than this. But then, I said the same things about difficult child going to Department of Juvenile Justice to begin with- in agreement with the MH profs.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure how to address difficult child feeling stuck living with me- he feels pretty stuck in Department of Juvenile Justice and sometimes behaves and sometimes doesn't; don;'t most teens feel stuck? Don't most teens have rules and expectations and pray for the day they reach adulthood and 'can do whatever they want'? The difference, in my humble opinion, is that when difficult child is in Department of Juvenile Justice, he KNOWS he has no choice. When he lives with me, he knows he's bigger than me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 480735, member: 3699"] JJJ, I don't know if that is due to a MH disability for Kanga- I just don't know- medicaid dropped difficult child when he went to the custody of Department of Juvenile Justice- he doesn't qualify for squat as a MH issue. They can't claim him independent. I'm not getting answers from PO or anybody on this kind of stuff- I get pats on the head and 'don't worry about it'. I don't quite get how my parental rights lessen if difficult child is in a group home from what they are when he's incarcerated in Department of Juvenile Justice. The thing is- if PO has this as 'the goal'- to get difficult child on his own- then why has he told me otherwise? And he bought into this woman's push for long term group home so quickly, does he even know this is what is going on? I want an attny to call the super- I can't figure out how much of POs words are just meant to manipulate me, how much are his not knowing, how much are his not being decisive, etc....this is their way in our CSU. KOI- if you have control and responsibility- tell the truth, Know what I mean?? Why is a PO telling me that rreunification and coming back home is the goal if it really isn't? Then turning around blaming me or making me look like a fool because iI expect to have some input on that? I do know that I had consultations with 2 different attnys here a few mos ago and both told me that my last jurisdiction lied to me and that I should have had representation, even though it was difficult child in court. I never knew- it was my son that broke the law and I was trying to support the system. He had a defense attny and a GAL. My money went to services for him and attnys for him as long as I could afford private ones and an attny to fight that custody case from my bro. WTH did I need an attny? They know they have a problem with parents walking from kids once the kid is in Department of Juvenile Justice in this state- it isn't always due to the parent being unfit or wanting to disown the kid. Seriously, this seems stupid to me- they could spend less money and help difficult child and give us a chance to reunite, in my humble opinion, for a lot less cost than this. But then, I said the same things about difficult child going to Department of Juvenile Justice to begin with- in agreement with the MH profs. I'm not sure how to address difficult child feeling stuck living with me- he feels pretty stuck in Department of Juvenile Justice and sometimes behaves and sometimes doesn't; don;'t most teens feel stuck? Don't most teens have rules and expectations and pray for the day they reach adulthood and 'can do whatever they want'? The difference, in my humble opinion, is that when difficult child is in Department of Juvenile Justice, he KNOWS he has no choice. When he lives with me, he knows he's bigger than me. [/QUOTE]
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