Does anyone know if you have been arrested, can you join the military? difficult child was arrested 2 times when he was a teen and both charges were expunged after probation. As an adult, he was arrested for having marijuana in his vehicle. He was on probation and is now off of it. He was told he can have it expunged but it will be costly. He tried college but could not handle the unstructured setting. He works part time at 2 jobs. His employers like the way he works. They say he goes above and beyond. They also say "I don't care what others say about you." Naturally, the last phrase always makes him cringe. difficult child has been saying for a couple of years that he wishes he could go somewhere and get a new start. He has some friends from school who went into different branches of the military and difficult child would like to enlist. He feels the structure, change of location, and chance to meet others would be the best for him. He says he doesn't want to be labeled all the time. He is trying to schedule an appointment with the Army. He is just waiting to see when his one boss can give him time off. I have heard from others that the military is very selective now and with his previous arrests he probably would not qualify.