A little while ago, difficult child and his tutor knocked on my locked ofc door. I opened it. difficult child immediately stood in the doorframe, nearly stepping on my toe. Tutor is from Africa and also has a different definition of personal space. They are both talking at once and getting in my space. They wanted to get on my computer. I said NO. Repeat several times. (Wash, rinse, repeat, as someone typed on this board a few days ago.) No, no, no. Okay, I realized something after thinking about it. One of the reasons I like this tutor is because he never gives up and he loves to talk and argue. A perfect match for difficult child. He is highly caffienated and a go-getter. But that also translates into not being my type of person. He can be as aggravating as difficult child. Tutor finally told me that difficult child left his grammar book at school and they needed to go online to get homework help with-indirect objects. Oh. I have several books on my shelf on that topic. I handed them three books. They chose one. Meanwhile, I'm sitting here, angry with-my cousin's bureaucratic mess of a convalescent ctr, and feeling my heart beat twice as fast because difficult child and tutor were in my face and in my space. I'm trying to refinance the house and can't get anything done. I need advice and tools for 1) Being more assertive (I know I solved the problem but it took several repetitions and I would like to be taken more seriously) and 2) How to imagine that they are actually far away, or at least, not on my toes and in my breathing space. That really, really bothers me. I've been told to build a make-believe plastic bubble around me, but that is easier said than done. Thanks in advance!