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<blockquote data-quote="moonglow" data-source="post: 315543" data-attributes="member: 256"><p>Nice to see you too Fran! Wish I have a hug smilie for you. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>That sounds like a good idea...good plan and that is my intentions of course to have him know how to take care of himself when he is on his own. I had a horrible time a few years ago to get him to get his own drink...pour his own cereal, heat up a hot dog in the microwave cause 'mom always did it' in his mind. He really fought that change just on that! But he has come a long ways, like I said. I had less of a problem getting him to put his clothes in the hamper, picking up after himself but that was because he knew he would get an allowance for doing that. greedy kid I guess...</p><p></p><p>For a long time I paid him to mow and weed eat but since he also got off of disablitly ...they reviewed his case and decided he was no longer disabled, I paid him less and less often because I couldn't afford it. Then all this past summer didn't pay him at all. But I thought that was a good thing because he needs to contribute to this family..even if its just the two of us and not be paid all the time for doing it. We would split the mowing too..me the smaller back yard and him the larger front and sides as my back got worse. I didn't want to totally stop mowing fearing what exercise I was getting from mowing and staying active would weaken my back muscles even more. So I kept doing the back yard. And usually in the past years once school started I didn't have him do the yard work at all so he could focus on school work. Then winter would come so that was no problem. </p><p></p><p>Anyway yes I agree starting with small things during the week is a good idea. Since he was dismissed from the IEP he no longer goes to the Special Education enrichment class where all he was doing was his homework anyway...so the draw back on him not going there anymore is he has more homework now to do at home. He was moved to a regular enrichment class that only has 'study hall' twice a week for schoolwork. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Sooooo not sure he if he is going to be over loaded with more homework at home now or not. He missed all of school last week due to the flu so is catching up right now. We'll see how bad it is after he catches up. Once he adjust to the changes at school then I can start doing some of this. </p><p></p><p>Thanks again for everyone's suggestions! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Julie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="moonglow, post: 315543, member: 256"] Nice to see you too Fran! Wish I have a hug smilie for you. :) That sounds like a good idea...good plan and that is my intentions of course to have him know how to take care of himself when he is on his own. I had a horrible time a few years ago to get him to get his own drink...pour his own cereal, heat up a hot dog in the microwave cause 'mom always did it' in his mind. He really fought that change just on that! But he has come a long ways, like I said. I had less of a problem getting him to put his clothes in the hamper, picking up after himself but that was because he knew he would get an allowance for doing that. greedy kid I guess... For a long time I paid him to mow and weed eat but since he also got off of disablitly ...they reviewed his case and decided he was no longer disabled, I paid him less and less often because I couldn't afford it. Then all this past summer didn't pay him at all. But I thought that was a good thing because he needs to contribute to this family..even if its just the two of us and not be paid all the time for doing it. We would split the mowing too..me the smaller back yard and him the larger front and sides as my back got worse. I didn't want to totally stop mowing fearing what exercise I was getting from mowing and staying active would weaken my back muscles even more. So I kept doing the back yard. And usually in the past years once school started I didn't have him do the yard work at all so he could focus on school work. Then winter would come so that was no problem. Anyway yes I agree starting with small things during the week is a good idea. Since he was dismissed from the IEP he no longer goes to the Special Education enrichment class where all he was doing was his homework anyway...so the draw back on him not going there anymore is he has more homework now to do at home. He was moved to a regular enrichment class that only has 'study hall' twice a week for schoolwork. :( Sooooo not sure he if he is going to be over loaded with more homework at home now or not. He missed all of school last week due to the flu so is catching up right now. We'll see how bad it is after he catches up. Once he adjust to the changes at school then I can start doing some of this. Thanks again for everyone's suggestions! :) Julie [/QUOTE]
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