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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 90070" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Very well put, Fran. Thank you for putting it into objective words.</p><p></p><p>I guess I will never understand what is the "right" way to deal with pain. I feel that those things will always be traumatic when you dwell upon them. It's like picking on a scab - it's never going to go away if you don't leave it alone. You leave it alone long enough it will be a scar. There will always be a reminder of the hurt, and from time to time you will see it and notice it and remember. That's life.</p><p></p><p>Honestly, people who pick at my life and get me riled up then tell me I need therapy should find a healthier way of enjoying themselves. If I'm not generally unhappy, if it's not crippling me, if I'm not hurting anyone else, and the only time it bothers me is when someone starts picking away at it to see if they can get a reaction out of me, they ought to see a therapist to figure out why they get such a charge out of judging me about the way I deal with something that they couldn't possibly understand. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes, life is messy. Somethings are never going to be "alright". You just move on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 90070, member: 99"] Very well put, Fran. Thank you for putting it into objective words. I guess I will never understand what is the "right" way to deal with pain. I feel that those things will always be traumatic when you dwell upon them. It's like picking on a scab - it's never going to go away if you don't leave it alone. You leave it alone long enough it will be a scar. There will always be a reminder of the hurt, and from time to time you will see it and notice it and remember. That's life. Honestly, people who pick at my life and get me riled up then tell me I need therapy should find a healthier way of enjoying themselves. If I'm not generally unhappy, if it's not crippling me, if I'm not hurting anyone else, and the only time it bothers me is when someone starts picking away at it to see if they can get a reaction out of me, they ought to see a therapist to figure out why they get such a charge out of judging me about the way I deal with something that they couldn't possibly understand. Sometimes, life is messy. Somethings are never going to be "alright". You just move on. [/QUOTE]
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