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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 341305" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>I think the kids act this way because they are overwhelmed. There IS no right way to go for them, anymore. They can't see how to begin, and no longer believe they will complete the journey even if they find the courage somewhere to start. What I learned here on the site is to say how sorry we were that this was happening. (Which was very true). And also, to remind the child (adult, now) that they had been raised to know, and do, better. I think this helps them remember who they were meant to be, before the drugs or the alcohol or whatever got them. And I think those childhood teachings, that identity with the person they were brought up to be, is the only source of true strength our addicted children have.</p><p></p><p>During our worst times, when there was literally nothing I could do, anymore, I took some strength from knowing that of all the people in the world, I was one of the few who knew, and held faith with, the understanding that my child was meant to be so much more than he had become.</p><p></p><p>I think this helped him to steer his way back. Not that he is anywhere near where he will come to, but he is on the path, now. </p><p></p><p>Imagine if you WERE your child. The one thing you need, no one can give you.</p><p></p><p>Hope.</p><p></p><p>If your child can remember who she was meant to be, she can (maybe) steer her way free of the addiction.</p><p></p><p>I wish you and your family well. I am so sorry this has happened.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 341305, member: 3353"] I think the kids act this way because they are overwhelmed. There IS no right way to go for them, anymore. They can't see how to begin, and no longer believe they will complete the journey even if they find the courage somewhere to start. What I learned here on the site is to say how sorry we were that this was happening. (Which was very true). And also, to remind the child (adult, now) that they had been raised to know, and do, better. I think this helps them remember who they were meant to be, before the drugs or the alcohol or whatever got them. And I think those childhood teachings, that identity with the person they were brought up to be, is the only source of true strength our addicted children have. During our worst times, when there was literally nothing I could do, anymore, I took some strength from knowing that of all the people in the world, I was one of the few who knew, and held faith with, the understanding that my child was meant to be so much more than he had become. I think this helped him to steer his way back. Not that he is anywhere near where he will come to, but he is on the path, now. Imagine if you WERE your child. The one thing you need, no one can give you. Hope. If your child can remember who she was meant to be, she can (maybe) steer her way free of the addiction. I wish you and your family well. I am so sorry this has happened. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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