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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 341316" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Honestly, I have found over the years that for me, this line of thinking only leads to frustration. It really doesn't matter what I would do, or how I would feel, or what I would think, because, it is not me, and my difficult child will never think like I do, act like I do, or feel like I do. I have stopped trying to "understand" their thinking from my perspective, and tried to accept that in difficult child World, this is "normal," and to suggest otherwise to them, usually means an argument or at the least, a puzzled look. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion, all we can hope is that someday, a lightbulb (or more likely, a nightlight) will go on and something will begin to change, ever so slowly. I have seen, particiularly with my Oldest, that she doesn't make the *outrageous* choices she used to make, even if her choices .. and her reasoning about them.. are still, well, skewed. I try to hold onto the phrase "progress, not perfection" (ala AA) when it comes to both my difficult children. I try to embrace whatever positive I can find. </p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 341316, member: 1157"] Honestly, I have found over the years that for me, this line of thinking only leads to frustration. It really doesn't matter what I would do, or how I would feel, or what I would think, because, it is not me, and my difficult child will never think like I do, act like I do, or feel like I do. I have stopped trying to "understand" their thinking from my perspective, and tried to accept that in difficult child World, this is "normal," and to suggest otherwise to them, usually means an argument or at the least, a puzzled look. in my opinion, all we can hope is that someday, a lightbulb (or more likely, a nightlight) will go on and something will begin to change, ever so slowly. I have seen, particiularly with my Oldest, that she doesn't make the *outrageous* choices she used to make, even if her choices .. and her reasoning about them.. are still, well, skewed. I try to hold onto the phrase "progress, not perfection" (ala AA) when it comes to both my difficult children. I try to embrace whatever positive I can find. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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