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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 318099" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p>It sounds like he was not awake enough to realize what was going on. This is a good thing. Sometimes it is the noise and intensity of everyone's actions that promote the fear. The more dramatic the event the more he is likely to struggle with it. Since he slept through it, he won't relive it. </p><p></p><p> Since he knew Mr. T and will likely notice he is not around, you need to tell him he passed. I agree point out that he was old, and had a heart attack. You don't need to explain how close it was unless he asks or hears it from someone else. Don't require him to talk about it, but be ready if he wants to talk about it. Let him drive.</p><p></p><p> A while back a restaurant I had lunch in exploded one hour after I left. I believe I had the last meal made there as the power had gone off while cooking it. The explosion was filmed and was shown all over the TV, and my difficult child in training (now easy child in training) had a very difficult time dealing with it. The same sort of thing, worried about me dying. My big mistake was making a big deal about talking about it and showing the video around. I should have kept quieter. It took hugs and reassurances, and a little extra one-on-one time.</p><p></p><p> At your difficult child's age one technique to help might be play therapy. It is a way they can address and beat their fears better then talking. For the younger ones having the ability for form the words needed to say what is bothering them can be difficult.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 318099, member: 6557"] It sounds like he was not awake enough to realize what was going on. This is a good thing. Sometimes it is the noise and intensity of everyone's actions that promote the fear. The more dramatic the event the more he is likely to struggle with it. Since he slept through it, he won't relive it. Since he knew Mr. T and will likely notice he is not around, you need to tell him he passed. I agree point out that he was old, and had a heart attack. You don't need to explain how close it was unless he asks or hears it from someone else. Don't require him to talk about it, but be ready if he wants to talk about it. Let him drive. A while back a restaurant I had lunch in exploded one hour after I left. I believe I had the last meal made there as the power had gone off while cooking it. The explosion was filmed and was shown all over the TV, and my difficult child in training (now easy child in training) had a very difficult time dealing with it. The same sort of thing, worried about me dying. My big mistake was making a big deal about talking about it and showing the video around. I should have kept quieter. It took hugs and reassurances, and a little extra one-on-one time. At your difficult child's age one technique to help might be play therapy. It is a way they can address and beat their fears better then talking. For the younger ones having the ability for form the words needed to say what is bothering them can be difficult. [/QUOTE]
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