When I was in college a guy I was dating came up to visit (I went to school out of state). It never occurred to me to even ASK if he could sleep in my room. I think my parents would have laughed for about an hour before saying no. I know the guy was not thrilled, but when he brought it up I told him it would be disrespectful to my parents and no way in Hades.
My folks knew I spent the night at husband's apartment when we were dating, but I lived at home at the time and would not have even asked if he could stay over. Again, it would have seemed disrespectful. He did spend the night on their couch once, but he fell asleep while we were watching a movie and I didn't want to wake him up. Other than that, it was not even an issue that was discussed. Even gfgbro never brought it up.
If my kids are of age AND in a stable committed relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend that I don't despise, I might consider it. Not sure how husband would feel, but it would depend on him mostly. A one night stand? Not in my home - I have worked to teach my kids to have more respect for themselves and their health than that. I am not even sure my kids would ask to have an overnight guest of the opposite gender spend the night. They are pretty respectful and my husband would find it to be very disrespectful. They read him and his opinions quite well.
I think this is personal and individual, and if you are paying for the home then you have the right to make the rules that you are comfortable with. If your kids object then they can do what centuries of other young adults have done and figure out another place to live or to at least spend a night now and then.
My folks knew I spent the night at husband's apartment when we were dating, but I lived at home at the time and would not have even asked if he could stay over. Again, it would have seemed disrespectful. He did spend the night on their couch once, but he fell asleep while we were watching a movie and I didn't want to wake him up. Other than that, it was not even an issue that was discussed. Even gfgbro never brought it up.
If my kids are of age AND in a stable committed relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend that I don't despise, I might consider it. Not sure how husband would feel, but it would depend on him mostly. A one night stand? Not in my home - I have worked to teach my kids to have more respect for themselves and their health than that. I am not even sure my kids would ask to have an overnight guest of the opposite gender spend the night. They are pretty respectful and my husband would find it to be very disrespectful. They read him and his opinions quite well.
I think this is personal and individual, and if you are paying for the home then you have the right to make the rules that you are comfortable with. If your kids object then they can do what centuries of other young adults have done and figure out another place to live or to at least spend a night now and then.