Okay, so yesterday we took our son to the pediatrician to discuss our concerns... Here's a link to my first thread with what's going on: http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=30924 Anyways, the pediatrician talked about Bipolar (which I don't think is what's going on), Fetal Alcohol (which is what I do think is going on), and mentioned Autism. Ultimatley, he said what we already knew which was that he couldn't know how to diagnosis that & gave us 2 referals. One referal is for the Psychiatry department at the children's hospital and the other is for teh Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics department. The psychiatric dept he said would take about 3 weeks to get into, but that the Developmental & Behavorial would take about 6 months. We decided we want to do both (as it sounds like the Developmental/Behav. thing is VERY extensive with lots of different specialists spending time with our son & then coming to a decision together as to how to diagnosis him). Well, I called the psychiatric dept just now to make an appointment & they said first of all that they're booking 4 months out & second that they don't think they should see him if my main concern is FASD (the doctor put conduct disorders in the referal I guess) and that we should go straight to Developmental & Behavioral. So then I call them.... they won't even book an appointment for me until after they've had the referal for 5 days (dumb). I'm SO FRUSTRUATED! I just want to get on the path to finding out what's going on NOW! I feel like depending on what the issue is, that I'm loosing time.... for instance, if it's FASD, the frontal lobe of his brain is developing for only another 2 years... there's things I might be able to do to make a difference during that time IF I knew how & I knew that was the issue... Same thing with so many other problems we could be having. I'm just at my wits end right now & hearing "We don't want to see him here" and "You'll have to wait 6 months" is NOT what I need to hear right now. Is there anything I can be doing in the meantime... anywhere I can be looking for something diffferent? I feel like I'm grasping for straws at this point. Also, for those of you who have delt with the departments I mentined above, do you know how your insurance covered it (if at all?) I tried calling the insurance to ask them what our coverage was on things like that & I basically got no answer there either.