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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 407132" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>1.) If you cancel her phone it will probably cost YOU more money - NOT GOOD FOR YOU. </p><p> </p><p>2.) If she can afford it? Then she pays you IN ADVANCE - one month in advance. No exceptions. She has Marches money paid BY Feb. XX, 2011 and when March XX, 2011 rolls around if she has not paid for April XX, 2011? You suspend it until she pays. THREE, strikes? Shes done, turns the phone back in, and it's over. </p><p> </p><p>3.) You have her sign a contract and have a witness notarize this. </p><p> </p><p>4.) You also have a time limit and a date ON the same above contract that she will merge into getting her own phone. Doesn't matter to me when that is - if it's 3 years then it's 3 years.....but that's up to you and her. </p><p> </p><p>5.) You can't come back at her for other offenses and "Take" the phone. OR you can write "other" offenses INTO your contract. CYA. </p><p> </p><p>6.) If she breaks or otherwise looses the phone? Do you have insurance on it? Does she pay for that herself or do you? Who pays for the phone if she gets all difficult child and breaks or looses it? Her/You? Write that into your contract with her. </p><p> </p><p>See kids want these responsibilities with big girl girdles, yet they don't ever want all the i's dotted and the t's crossed with contracts - they just want the perks. Then we agree to it - without thinking because like good parents and not good business people - we just want what is going to HELP them - rarely thinking what helps US. Contracts do. Black and white - covering our bases...just like in the real world does. </p><p> </p><p>hate it------with a passion but our kids put us there, and this sadly is a life lesson for us all. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs - and ring, ring......ring, ring's. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 407132, member: 4964"] 1.) If you cancel her phone it will probably cost YOU more money - NOT GOOD FOR YOU. 2.) If she can afford it? Then she pays you IN ADVANCE - one month in advance. No exceptions. She has Marches money paid BY Feb. XX, 2011 and when March XX, 2011 rolls around if she has not paid for April XX, 2011? You suspend it until she pays. THREE, strikes? Shes done, turns the phone back in, and it's over. 3.) You have her sign a contract and have a witness notarize this. 4.) You also have a time limit and a date ON the same above contract that she will merge into getting her own phone. Doesn't matter to me when that is - if it's 3 years then it's 3 years.....but that's up to you and her. 5.) You can't come back at her for other offenses and "Take" the phone. OR you can write "other" offenses INTO your contract. CYA. 6.) If she breaks or otherwise looses the phone? Do you have insurance on it? Does she pay for that herself or do you? Who pays for the phone if she gets all difficult child and breaks or looses it? Her/You? Write that into your contract with her. See kids want these responsibilities with big girl girdles, yet they don't ever want all the i's dotted and the t's crossed with contracts - they just want the perks. Then we agree to it - without thinking because like good parents and not good business people - we just want what is going to HELP them - rarely thinking what helps US. Contracts do. Black and white - covering our bases...just like in the real world does. hate it------with a passion but our kids put us there, and this sadly is a life lesson for us all. Hugs - and ring, ring......ring, ring's. Star [/QUOTE]
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