klmno, a better warrior mom would have a good answer for you. The best I can come up with is make sure that there is a concrete objective way for you to know that IEP and BIP are being appropriately implemented - daily reports, check lists, written communication with staff, keep all school work, etc. I'm terminally disorganized and have never been terribly effective at consistently tracking IEP stuff - to be honest, at this point I've given up with both my sped kids - but you strike me as a together woman and I think you can track the documentation. Make sure that it's written in the IEP that daily reports, point sheets, whatever, will be sent home. If he has *any* behavioral issues at all, I'd immediately request a meeting with staff involved to run down that the positive behavioral strategies were employed first, as well as the applicable teaching and preventative strategies. Or since this can get expensive time-wise for working moms, call, get their side of the story, difficult child's, and then send a "letter of understanding" certified to SD, with a request on the letter that it be included in difficult child's permanent file (not all correspondence is kept).
After X weeks (sorry, I know we're coming up on the end of school), if they are not implementing IEP and BIP appropriately, you take your written documentation and request yet another IEP meeting. You calmly lay out the examples of their noncompliance with IEP/BIP and strongly suggest .... what it is that you want. I'm foggy but thinking you had someone you wanted to come in and do training? Or does VA have the resources available thru the state board of ed? Anyway, noncompliance with IEP is a big no-no - I think (but don't quote me
) it's a procedural violation which is a situation where parents have a much better chance of winning if you end up having to go to due process. I mean, if they're not following the IEP that they participated in writing, how can they possibly argue child is receiving FAPE???
I hope that makes some kind of sense - it's late.
Also, just my lay opinion - no expert here.