I saw difficult child on Monday evening. He had texted me and asked me to bring him the clothes and stuff that he'd left at my parents house over Christmas. Apparently he has found someone new to stay with. His friend "A"'s mother has said she can't stand to see him homeless and he can sleep on their couch until he finds a place. Apparently she doesn't care how long this will take... she is NOT going to let him leave until he has his own place. Yeah for A's mom! Superhero Rescue Ranger Mom! LOL. Hopefully she puts up with him until the weather warms up. But that is ok. It's getting colder out and at least I know he has a place to stay for now and it's close to the school so maybe he'll get there. I practiced with one of my support group people on how to approach difficult child about his medications. I know he hasn't been taking them consistently and he should have been out of pills by now and asking for more. Soooo, I said. "I'm concerned about you not taking your medication consistently." His response? He hasn't taken it at all in 3 weeks. Oh geez - great! He can't remember because he is supposed to take it with food and he always forgets. But he has an alarm set on his phone to remind him to take it at lunchtime. It's set before he eats and then by the time he is done eating he forgets again. Ok, so I suggested he change the alarm to go off after he has eaten. He got a nasty look in his eyes but didn't say anything. He doesn't really want to be compliant so me coming up with a viable solution made him angry. So, I am worried and I told him. I gave him a viable solution and also discussed with him what could happen to him as far as his mood and behaviour if he didn't continue to take his medication. There is nothing else I can do but wait and see what he does. I am learning that these are his choices, in his control and I can express myself in a loving way and then I have to let it go because I have no control over it. You know, I never got the Serenity Prayer before now - but I do now. He did seem pretty happy but he was unwashed and I'm pretty sure he's been wearing the same clothes for at least a week. I didn't bring up him breaking into our house while we were away. I thought about it but I'd already told him via text how I felt and he didn't steal anything (just snuck in to have sex with the girlfriend) so I dropped it. I opted for a pleasant visit and only brought up the medication issue - everything else we talked about was pretty much fluff. In other news, the pediatrician called today and they have booked him a consult with a different psychiatrist for Jan 28 so I took the appointment and hopefully will be able to talk difficult child into going. He likes going to dr.'s and getting medications - attention seeking. But he doesn't like the pediatrician because the dr. takes him to task on his behaviour. So, we'll see if he will go or not. The clinic through the hospital won't be calling me for 3 months - then I'll get a phone interview, then they'll decide if they even want to take him. Then I'll have to wait for appts. By then he'll be about 6-8 months away from his 18th birthday and will age out of that program anyway. Do you ever feel like the system has you running around in circles?