Quite the ktbug

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, Nov 16, 2010.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    kt has been deep in thought about bio family & her life's history over the past few months; especially since the incident that led her to home school.

    Saying that a week or so ago she decided that she'd had it with her bio history. She took her life book apart & burnt all the pictures & stories she no longer wanted or needed.

    It took her a good 3 hours with in home therapist to go through this book, discuss the why's & wherefores of not holding onto her past, what she wanted to keep & her reasoning behind burning this information.

    After the "burn" session I had makings for s'mores if she felt like it or tissues; kt used some of both.

    I'm proud of her choices to let go of a horrendous history - to move forward.
  2. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    She's such a smart girl. Tell her this board auntie is very proud of her...
  3. donna723

    donna723 Well-Known Member

    Wow! That sounds like a HUGE step forward. I'm proud of her too!
  4. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    This board auntie is also very proud. Hugs to kt.
  5. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Another proud board auntie who has tears in her eyes from reading this!
  6. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    She is a very special, very strong young lady. That is a wonderful step and I hope she continues to be empowered this way.
  7. barneysmom

    barneysmom Member

    Wow this is a beautiful story which encourages me in my own personal journey.

    I hope you will be reminding yourself how much you had to do with kt reaching this point (your husband too) -- how much love and sacrifice. The ultimate sacrifice.

    I like your new avatar -- I hadn't noticed it, and then laughed out loud when I did.

    Last edited: Nov 17, 2010
  8. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Yet another proud board aunt here too. I hope that clears the way for a bright and healthy future for her! Hugs to you both.
  9. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Has she found the catharsis freeing?
  10. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Tell her this board Auntie is also very proud of her!! Our KTbug has come such a long way and is discovering how strong she truly is. A very large stride forward. Doesn't mean she won't stumble a few more times along the way. But definitely a huge stride forward for her.

    Hmmm. Evidently I can beam and drip tears at the same time. lol :D:D
  11. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Wow Linda. This is great.

    The past couple years have been very eventful for KTbug. She was making tremendous progress before husband left the home and his subsequent passing. She has had to get a honest grasp on the limitations of her mom's earth issues. It has been 24 months of ups and downs for her but it seems, through it all, she continued to make steady progress. Now this! I would think this is the outward sign of inner desire to not let the past define who she is. This is huge!!!!!!!

    Another board Auntie here who is so very proud of Miss KT!!!

  12. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    This is absolutely excellent news!!! Count me in as another really proud board "auntie." SFR
  13. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    barneysmom, I saw this action (i.e. burning the pictures & stories from her life book) has released her to grow further; to continue to survive. There are moments of regret ~ she talks about some of the photos she wished she'd kept. However, unknown to the tweedles, husband scanned each & every document in their life books. Just because.

    If kt really wants or grieves a photo I will pull it out (with her therapist's permission). In the long run, it was a good choice that she let go, symbolically) of the history that hurt her so much.

    kt continues to work her little behind off doing home school. We had parent/teacher conferences & all her teachers are proud of the work & effort kt is putting into her schooling.

    I'll let kt know that her board aunties are so very proud. I'm one very proud mama.