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Rambling & whiny-but how do you cope when the sadness gets to you?
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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 505812"><p>Sig,</p><p></p><p>First, I am so very sorry. You are talking about it which will help. Please continue to talk. </p><p></p><p>My situation isn't the same as yours but I am fully preparing myself for it to become the same. Funny you should bring this subject up. I saw my therapist this morning and discussed dealing with what I called 'letting him go.' Here's a random list of the ideas we came up with. Hopefully something might help.</p><p></p><p>We talked about - journaling my feelings, continuing to build my support system, grieving the loss of the dreams I had for him, grieving because of the choice he has made, dealing with legal and practical realities (wills, his room and stuff here, etc.), having a list of places he can go and people who will help him ready in case he contacts me, and making some small changes in the house to make it easier to adapt to not having him here.</p><p></p><p>With any grief, the ache is hardest at first...but bit by bit, it gets better. And the stronger you are...the healthier you are...the better it will be should he (oh...I pray he does) decide he wants to get clean.</p><p></p><p>Years ago, I read Melody Beattie's Codependent No More. I'm rereading it now. It's helping me focus on the only one I can change. Me. What do I need, want, feel,etc.? It's really helping me to realign my thinking. I know I can never simply 'change the channel' and not deal with the huge anger and frustration and sadness from my difficult child's choices - but - for me - if I can work through it while having a life and being happy then that is the very best I can do.</p><p></p><p>I'm sending you peaceful thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 505812"] Sig, First, I am so very sorry. You are talking about it which will help. Please continue to talk. My situation isn't the same as yours but I am fully preparing myself for it to become the same. Funny you should bring this subject up. I saw my therapist this morning and discussed dealing with what I called 'letting him go.' Here's a random list of the ideas we came up with. Hopefully something might help. We talked about - journaling my feelings, continuing to build my support system, grieving the loss of the dreams I had for him, grieving because of the choice he has made, dealing with legal and practical realities (wills, his room and stuff here, etc.), having a list of places he can go and people who will help him ready in case he contacts me, and making some small changes in the house to make it easier to adapt to not having him here. With any grief, the ache is hardest at first...but bit by bit, it gets better. And the stronger you are...the healthier you are...the better it will be should he (oh...I pray he does) decide he wants to get clean. Years ago, I read Melody Beattie's Codependent No More. I'm rereading it now. It's helping me focus on the only one I can change. Me. What do I need, want, feel,etc.? It's really helping me to realign my thinking. I know I can never simply 'change the channel' and not deal with the huge anger and frustration and sadness from my difficult child's choices - but - for me - if I can work through it while having a life and being happy then that is the very best I can do. I'm sending you peaceful thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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