Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Rambling & whiny-but how do you cope when the sadness gets to you?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 505819" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I think it is easier if your difficult child is at least pursuing some kind of treatment, at least for me it is. I try to put myself in your place and if difficult child had not gone into treatment and was still in the same place as she was last year at this time, I think I would be devastated with a big hole in my heart also. I probably wouldn't be crying as much as I was but I remember those days being so close to tears every day that the least little thing would start them. I couldn't walk into certain stores we shopped at or go places we use to go together or look at her room or many other things that reminded me of the past, and I am pretty sure I would still be very vulnerable to crying today if she hadn't made any progress.</p><p></p><p>I also find it's easier for me to be positive when difficult child is working the program than when she isn't. So when I know she's doing well I think all our difficult child's can do well, and when she is relapsing I fear there is no hope, for any of us. I have to fight those thoughts because obviously my difficult child's progress has no bearing on anyone else's but it's my attitude that is affected.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I'm trying to say Sig is that I understand what you are feeling. It's a horrible horrible feeling and I can only describe it by saying my heart aches, my soul aches, my entire body aches. My throat hurts from holding back tears, I think I will never be happy again and I have an overwhelming feeling of fear and doom. It gets better but it's always there. When she goes into treatment or admits her problem or works the program those feelings fade quickly and hope returns.</p><p></p><p>You don't have a lot of hope now and you are stuck in the fear and sadness mode.</p><p></p><p>I am in limbo right now. I suspect strongly that difficult child has relapsed and is only following the program for show. I worry that if I find out she is totally relapsed and loses her job and living arrangements and falls hard I will be back to square one and have that terrible pit in my stomach again.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure if I'm making any sense but I wanted to validate your feelings and think that if your difficult child would admit he had a problem or even if you knew the full extent of the problem you would feel a little better because you would know what you were dealing with.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure others will reply whose difficult child's did not go into treatment and they will tell you how they got through it. But know I'm thinking about you and wishing none of us had to know this pain.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 505819, member: 59"] I think it is easier if your difficult child is at least pursuing some kind of treatment, at least for me it is. I try to put myself in your place and if difficult child had not gone into treatment and was still in the same place as she was last year at this time, I think I would be devastated with a big hole in my heart also. I probably wouldn't be crying as much as I was but I remember those days being so close to tears every day that the least little thing would start them. I couldn't walk into certain stores we shopped at or go places we use to go together or look at her room or many other things that reminded me of the past, and I am pretty sure I would still be very vulnerable to crying today if she hadn't made any progress. I also find it's easier for me to be positive when difficult child is working the program than when she isn't. So when I know she's doing well I think all our difficult child's can do well, and when she is relapsing I fear there is no hope, for any of us. I have to fight those thoughts because obviously my difficult child's progress has no bearing on anyone else's but it's my attitude that is affected. I guess what I'm trying to say Sig is that I understand what you are feeling. It's a horrible horrible feeling and I can only describe it by saying my heart aches, my soul aches, my entire body aches. My throat hurts from holding back tears, I think I will never be happy again and I have an overwhelming feeling of fear and doom. It gets better but it's always there. When she goes into treatment or admits her problem or works the program those feelings fade quickly and hope returns. You don't have a lot of hope now and you are stuck in the fear and sadness mode. I am in limbo right now. I suspect strongly that difficult child has relapsed and is only following the program for show. I worry that if I find out she is totally relapsed and loses her job and living arrangements and falls hard I will be back to square one and have that terrible pit in my stomach again. I'm not sure if I'm making any sense but I wanted to validate your feelings and think that if your difficult child would admit he had a problem or even if you knew the full extent of the problem you would feel a little better because you would know what you were dealing with. I'm sure others will reply whose difficult child's did not go into treatment and they will tell you how they got through it. But know I'm thinking about you and wishing none of us had to know this pain. Nancy [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Rambling & whiny-but how do you cope when the sadness gets to you?
Top